What's wrong with you people! (I'm not directing that comment to the sane people here). Erections are as natural as breathing and can be just as involuntary. Simply having one is not an excuse to use it nor a reliable indication of wanting too. Men get erections in our sleep. Should we quit sleeping? We get erections wake up. Neither should we sleep nor wake? We get erections when we want them, when we _don't_want them, and sometime we don't get them when we _do_ want them. Yes, it can be a compliment, enjoy these moments. But it can also be no more of a compliment than a sneeze.
There's nothing wrong with commenting to wait and still desiring a sexual relationship. A commitment is not a magical anti-desire spell. Nothing wrong with talking about it either unless talking increases temptation. I'm guessing (could be wrong) he's distracted by his drive and would rather, because of is commitment, talk about it than act on it. Is he generous to you when you makeout? He may be trying to please you in order to pacify his desires rather than seeking his own pleasure. Many men do get immense satisfaction in pleasing a women. Congratulations, you seem to have one. I often hear women complaining that men don't walk to express themselves or say whats on really their mind. Well congratulations, you've got one that does. Would you rather find out he has an overdriven libido _after_ you are married? I don't think he does. Does he touch your body or unduly pressure you to let him touch your body in ways that you've asked him not to? If he is disrespectful, then ok, you should worry about his drive (since he's got a self-control issue). But, if he can make out with you while still honoring your requests then you've potentially got a very generous lover in your future.
Talk with him, asking about his desires and find out what's going on exactly. It could be that sleeping in the same bed and spending too much time being physical in general is too temping. Personally, I'd say you two _are_ too close to the edge. Living together can be very problematic. Romantic couples sleeping in the same bed and maintaining abstinence is *very* unusual. I'm not ruling out the possibility, just saying I'm skeptical. Talk; you might find his discussion the perfect opportunity to express your expectations about sex in your marriage. For example, "I expect at least 8 hours of foreplay occasionally, staring with doing the dishes cuz when I would desire even more if you did the dishes."
Only thing boyfriend wants to do is make out, and always has erection?
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What's wrong with you people! (I'm not directing that comment to the sane people here). Erections are as natural as breathing and can be just as involuntary. Simply having one is not an excuse to use it nor a reliable indication of wanting too. Men get erections in our sleep. Should we quit sleeping? We get erections wake up. Neither should we sleep nor wake? We get erections when we want them, when we _don't_want them, and sometime we don't get them when we _do_ want them. Yes, it can be a compliment, enjoy these moments. But it can also be no more of a compliment than a sneeze.
There's nothing wrong with commenting to wait and still desiring a sexual relationship. A commitment is not a magical anti-desire spell. Nothing wrong with talking about it either unless talking increases temptation. I'm guessing (could be wrong) he's distracted by his drive and would rather, because of is commitment, talk about it than act on it. Is he generous to you when you makeout? He may be trying to please you in order to pacify his desires rather than seeking his own pleasure. Many men do get immense satisfaction in pleasing a women. Congratulations, you seem to have one. I often hear women complaining that men don't walk to express themselves or say whats on really their mind. Well congratulations, you've got one that does. Would you rather find out he has an overdriven libido _after_ you are married? I don't think he does. Does he touch your body or unduly pressure you to let him touch your body in ways that you've asked him not to? If he is disrespectful, then ok, you should worry about his drive (since he's got a self-control issue). But, if he can make out with you while still honoring your requests then you've potentially got a very generous lover in your future.
Talk with him, asking about his desires and find out what's going on exactly. It could be that sleeping in the same bed and spending too much time being physical in general is too temping. Personally, I'd say you two _are_ too close to the edge. Living together can be very problematic. Romantic couples sleeping in the same bed and maintaining abstinence is *very* unusual. I'm not ruling out the possibility, just saying I'm skeptical. Talk; you might find his discussion the perfect opportunity to express your expectations about sex in your marriage. For example, "I expect at least 8 hours of foreplay occasionally, staring with doing the dishes cuz when I would desire even more if you did the dishes."