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My older sister and I get along extremely well most of the time. We have the same sense of humor and like most of the same things and look alike. Don't get me wrong, I love my family very much, and I know they love me, too. However, my older sister is SO rude to me sometimes when I try to stay as calm and collected as I possibly can. When other people are around, she'll put them before me ALL the time! It drives me crazy!

I put her before others no matter what, and it seems like if someone else does something wrong, she'll say something like, "Oh no problem it's not a big deal," or something like that. But if I do something wrong, she'll simply go nuts and say something like, "WTF is wrong with you! What are you a f*cking idiot? Don't you think?" and things like that.

She has low self-esteem and I know that, so I'm as supportive as I can possibly be towards her and treat her like family should. She doesn't appreciate it and doesn't realize how often I bite my tongue when I get upset with her. Is it normal for her to treat others better than her kid sister?

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  • Short&2thepoint
    12 years ago | pl

    Dude, it sounds like she only hacks on you because you LET her. talk to her privately and tell her it pisses you off. Make a point of how she'd feel if you acted like her. She probably doesn't think it bothers you.

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  • yjing
    7 years ago | pl

    I think sometimes we allow ourselves to take our stress off only with the most closer people to us, because we know they can understand. But this doesn t mean you have to let her disrespect you.

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  • wish-i-wasn't-normal
    13 years ago | pl

    ya my sister used to be like that with me.
    eventually i snapped, screamed my head off in front of the hole family, and in a way told her "who are you to talk about me like that, you have problems of your own and your not perfect either. so just shut up and don't stick your nose in my business and i wont in yours"
    i had to do that a few times though. and trust me my speeches were a lot harsher and one of them even left my mom in awe.

    but then again my sister has a superiority complex, opposite of your sister.

    that was a wile back though, now we are on good friendly terms, she even recently told me she still sees me as her baby brother, even though i'm double her size! but sees my kid brother who is 12 as a grown up.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago | pl

    You might want to put a little distance between you & her cause it sounds like she's really getting under your skin and giving you the short end of the stick.

    How to do that? Hang out with your own friends and go to your own activities more often exclusive of her.

    You might also talk with her about her rude behaviour & how it feels to you. You'd think she'd know better, but she may not realize that her insecurity & selfish need to one-up is pretty unfair, upsetting, tiresome and unacceptable for the one she is putting down.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    14 years ago | pl

    lol i can't treat her like that

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  • joliegems
    14 years ago | pl

    If she does that again you should say we'll at least I'm not a slut like you that's got herpes.

    I bet that will keep her trap shut in the future.

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  • Isolated
    14 years ago | pl

    Maybe she's afraid that her little brother will embarass her?

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