Regarding online romantic relationships, I'm currently in one (Yeah, bring it on CrudAIDS)
A bit over 4 months, online only so far with plans to meet soon.
There's definite pros & cons IMO.
I think for me the positives are that I was intrigued by this girl before I even knew what she looked like.
There was no intent to date & therefore neither of us were trying to impress the other. That just happened naturally.
Our personalities & sense of humor just seemed to click. & then I find out she's gorgeous... Fucking bonus!
Also, the connection you establish when you rely so heavily on purely verbal communication is SOLID. Problems HAVE to be spoken about & resolved.
Communication is key & you soon find out whether you have that.
I'm extremely excited about the situation I'm in & think that due to the unique way we met & learnt about each other (learning some of the heaviest stuff first) this will be the best relationship I've ever been in by far :)
As for the negatives.
Uncertainties & insecurities can be amplified with distance.
It takes work - you can't rely on sex or whatever else to keep things going & you have to make time for each other no matter what.
For us the time zone is probably the biggest obstacle.
& of course the lack of physical contact is fucking frustrating! Not just sex but the ability to cuddle, kiss, hold hands...
The stuff that most people take for granted. Plus sex...
Overall I wouldn't trade what I have for anything.
We're both capable of dating offline locally but not interested.
Both just happened to stumble across somebody perfect for ourselves & perfect for each other & that's rare, online or offline
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Regarding online romantic relationships, I'm currently in one (Yeah, bring it on CrudAIDS)
A bit over 4 months, online only so far with plans to meet soon.
There's definite pros & cons IMO.
I think for me the positives are that I was intrigued by this girl before I even knew what she looked like.
There was no intent to date & therefore neither of us were trying to impress the other. That just happened naturally.
Our personalities & sense of humor just seemed to click. & then I find out she's gorgeous... Fucking bonus!
Also, the connection you establish when you rely so heavily on purely verbal communication is SOLID. Problems HAVE to be spoken about & resolved.
Communication is key & you soon find out whether you have that.
I'm extremely excited about the situation I'm in & think that due to the unique way we met & learnt about each other (learning some of the heaviest stuff first) this will be the best relationship I've ever been in by far :)
As for the negatives.
Uncertainties & insecurities can be amplified with distance.
It takes work - you can't rely on sex or whatever else to keep things going & you have to make time for each other no matter what.
For us the time zone is probably the biggest obstacle.
& of course the lack of physical contact is fucking frustrating! Not just sex but the ability to cuddle, kiss, hold hands...
The stuff that most people take for granted. Plus sex...
Overall I wouldn't trade what I have for anything.
We're both capable of dating offline locally but not interested.
Both just happened to stumble across somebody perfect for ourselves & perfect for each other & that's rare, online or offline