One non business encounter with friends or family per week?
I'm disabled, work from home. My husband works at the office, and some at home. I've quit entertaining at home or setting up "outings" for friends. I don't do volunteer work. We have no children. We have no family within 900 miles of us. We see his family 2-3 times a year. We see mine zero times a year. He pursues sports and workouts 3-4 times a week, out of the house, at least one time with friends. That comprises the steady diet of human contact we have.
My husband says that I have excessive needs beyond his for "social contact". He says this is why he would not consider living further out of town where the cost of real estate is lower, and his hobbies demanding a lot of workshop space could be afforded. He says this would isolate me too much. I never mentioned it.
I don't bring friends home to visit. I don't chat on the phone with friends or family.
I think it's probably unwise of us to be so isolated from our local community. This may work fine as long as we have needs which are independent of cooperation from others locally. But that is only a "fortunate" scenario. Not a typical one. I don't think we are dealing with reality. We don't live on an island. We are more isolated than most with no children in the community, no family nearby, no church practice, no consistent local club activity.
He may be able to get his needs met in a pinch because he has a stable identity as an employee from years when he worked in an office most of the time, before he began working at home so much.
But I'm isolated, with work that is intermittent and done through the internet, and rather faceless.
Any topic touching on balancing social needs with activities, and I'm targetted as the NEEDY one with excessive needs.
What is normal?
What is healthy?