One night stands, advice?
*Wall of Text*, I apologize in advance. The TL;DR can be found in the last two paragraphs.
Okay, here goes. I'm highly embarrassed about it but I really need to hear some opinions. When you're single and go out with someone, what are the possible outcomes? My last three were
1) we met, had a dessert each, kissed and said goodbye, neither called the other, end of story;
2) we met, got along great, got drunk, if it makes any difference to your advice, and hooked up. While it seemed to have been similar experiences for the two of us, it really wasn't and I only realized it the next day. I was rejected quickly, although there was some talk of wanting to see each other again, more on my part and there was no actual suggestion we do, hence I was rejected because I did hint at it;
3) met, hooked up, had the best time together, enough to do it a couple more times, enjoyed it thoroughly but developed no real feelings for the each other.
Now here's the thing, as far as I can remember number two (stupid pun intended) has happened to me at least once before, getting together with a random person, getting emotionally involved immediately, and then realizing we are both on completely different pages --more like we weren't even in the same book!
My current issue is that one. I wanted to get some input on two people having an experience together and only one of them developing feelings. How common do you believe that is and why do you think it happens? I obviously have an opinion on the subject but I won't say anything because I'm not looking for validation of my ideas, just good input. However, if you find it important to know just ask and I will state what I think. Bear in mind this is coming from someone dealing with rejection, being surprised and upset by the outcome. In particular for insisting on it the next day and saying things I wish I hadn't --even if it was great to bring it out in the open. Like I said, I'm extremely embarrassed now for coming across as a bit of a needy psycho.
Thanks a lot.