Ok for bf’s mom to have his ex wedding as fb profile pic?

I have been with my boyfriend for the greater part of a year now. His mother is my friend on Facebook, and her main profile picture is of his wedding to his ex wife, with her and other family members surrounding. We get along great and from what I know and can gather, she and the family like me a lot. {and can’t stand her} The picture is from 2007 and is very blurry/pixelated...not good quality at all. They have a zillion photos of family members etc displayed in their house {not with the ex wife} but whenever I bring it up to the bf he’ll say “it’s cause she’s not tech savvy” “it’s because it’s the whole family” “it’s because she was thinner then” etc etc...I feel like if it were me and my mother had that, I’d be MORTIFIED and so would she and I’d be the first one to be like umm let me help you pick something else please...I get that maybe she doesn’t realize how embarrassing it is for me or how completely inappropriate it is having that as a MAIN PICTURE..gahhh help..

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  • That's weird.

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  • Well, that is odd, but being his mom I wouldn’t blame your boyfriend. Parents of a boyfriend or girlfriend can be really oblivious to stuff like that, because they don’t really care or think about it. Or, it could be possible she liked her better than you with her son and thinks it was a nice memory. Sounds harsh but that’s pretty common

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    • Oh I don’t blame HIM per se...I get it, my mom isn’t exactly the expert when it comes to social media either 😆 that’s the thing, though...she does NOT remember her fondly..which is a big part of why I find the choice of picture very..odd..

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  • You're too hung up on small details, focus on what's important, your boyfriend.

    I get it's annoying to see the previous woman, but it's not even on your boyfriend's social media, it's on his mother's. Are you fucking his mom too? What's the issue here? Plus, you've only been dating this guy for months. Not a year. Not even a year and a half, but the "greater part of a year," which mean months. Are you hoping his mom would be like, "Oh shit, my son got a new one. Okay yall, let's erase all our good memories that includes the other bitch to make this new bitch happy."

    At the end of the day, it's just a photo of a wedding she attended. Would it really be any different if the wedding photo was of another wedding? Control your jealousy girl, it ain't cute.

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    • Ok first of all, THANK YOU. So far everyone I’ve talked to has said things along the lines of “yeah that’s messed up you shouldn’t stand for that, it’s disrespectful” etc etc...by going here and channeling an anonymous, non biased forum, I was hoping that someone would “snap me out of it” so to speak...because yes, he and I have a very good relationship where we’ve always been able to talk openly about anything...my point isn’t even about “jealousy” so to speak...to give a little background, we’ve both walked away from marriages, and the general understanding that has always been presented to me was that his family despised her...she had an affair and a child with another man while they were together...I guess part of my point is why would you want to represent yourself on social media using someone who basically destroyed a part of your son’s life..that is, if they’re truly being honest with me on their feelings about her...again, that’s why I took it here to get a kind of “outsider” POV 😉👍👍

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  • How do you want me to help?

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    • Just was trying to see if I’m being unreasonable here 😊

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      • K, you’re not. You have reason to be weirded out cause that is weird

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