Obsessing over a crush

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I'm 29 and to this day, I've had a problem with developing extreme crushes. Usually this happens when I work with someone, find them attractive, realize how much I have in common with them and BAM! All of the sudden I'm completly obsessed. I imagine things, kissing, sex, marriage, children. Things that are ridiculous and I know that if I picture it, it will never happen. Yet, when I tell myself to stop being silly, to be realistic and not so psycho, I do it MORE. I do it until I get my heart broken in some way, like I find out they have a girlfriend, are interested in someone else etc. Or, I get my feelings hurt because they didn't react they way I wanted them to in a situation. The sad thing is, this isn't always enough to forget about them. It's like Dumb and Dumber when he says "So you're telling me there's a chance?" It's so sad, I feel so pathetic. Am I the only one who acts in this crazy manner? I know that if someone likes you, they will usually let you know. But, for some strange reason, if I think he does something flirty, I hold onto my fantasy with ridiculous hope. Can I ever stop this madness???

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  • anon2468
    14 years ago

    I'm in the exact same situation as you but I'm a guy and I'm 18..

    I think it's slightly out of the norm to be like this but it's definitely not to the extent where you're weird as in pedophile or whatever

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    • anon2468
      14 years ago

      As weird as a pedophile*

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  • thundercat
    14 years ago

    Maybe you try too hard, you want too much, you are too anxious about the whole thing. There's a saying about that love will come when you are not expecting it. Be more, really, not feignedly, laidback. Look for other activities that can be pleasurable and nice for you, per se, by themselves, not as means to 'know' people. Exercise regularly to low down the obsessiveness in you.

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  • BoomboxGirl
    11 years ago

    I'm 17 & I do the same thing. I can't help it. & when they don't like me back I don't really get it. I still like them & it's totally weird. I feel like a creep.

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  • swiftswanfrozen
    12 years ago

    im 19 and im exactly the same

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