You're not an asshole, you're human just like everyone else. At least you've learned that adultery isn't as black and white as most people profess it is. Relationships are complicated things between complex beings, there's a lot of grey area. Only one thing is certain; cheating IS a betrayal.
You said you're not comfortable with your current situation with this new woman in your life. There's nothing wrong with postponing this relationship with her until she's officially single again. You can admit to the attraction but be honest about your misgivings about the whole situation as it stands. She might be hurt (you might too) but she cannot legitimately hold it against you.
Like another person mentioned above, consider how your children would view you if they found out.
Now the shoe is on the other foot.
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You're not an asshole, you're human just like everyone else. At least you've learned that adultery isn't as black and white as most people profess it is. Relationships are complicated things between complex beings, there's a lot of grey area. Only one thing is certain; cheating IS a betrayal.
You said you're not comfortable with your current situation with this new woman in your life. There's nothing wrong with postponing this relationship with her until she's officially single again. You can admit to the attraction but be honest about your misgivings about the whole situation as it stands. She might be hurt (you might too) but she cannot legitimately hold it against you.
Like another person mentioned above, consider how your children would view you if they found out.