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I've been married to the same woman for 42 years. About 8 years ago I started watching hard core porn to spruce up our dwindling sex life. The deal is that I watch it mostly alone for an hour or so before we have sex. My wife has always been totally aware of this and it has never been a problem. Until now. She went and told her sister about it! Her sister has always been a holier than thou stuck up bitch who walks around like she has a stick up her ass. She has been filling my wife's head up with a bunch of bullshit about what a sick pervert I am. Like if I really loved her then I wouldn't need to watch porn. This is causing problems between my wife and me. Without porn I find sex dull and quite boring. I'm thinking about cheating with whores. I've never cheated in my married life. I don't believe a guy watching porn and giving himself a hand job is cheating. Just fun and exciting for a guy in his sixties. But most of all very, very normal. Do you agree? I think that if I can't watch porn without a lot of hassel then our marriage is doomed. Am I normal or what?

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  • scullyfbi
    8 years ago | pl

    Don't blame the sister. You wife doesn't have to do or think anything she says, unless she wants to.

    Ask why she felt the need to share that? Isn't it private?
    And then since she did, and received the criticism she knew it would--- ask here why she didn't DEFEND her lifelong partner, you?

    You two have to talk about the things you two want to do, between you two, and get the sister out of it. It is private and not appropriate. So find out if wife did have a problem with how things were and if the sister thing is her way of bringing that out.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago | pl

    Wrinkly sailor, is that you?

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  • Motorhippy
    8 years ago | pl

    You're thinking of hooking up with whores, if you can't watch porn without a hassle your marriage is doomed? Lol, you can't just hide the porn from your wife like everyone Else?

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  • sob
    8 years ago | pl

    @dytrog
    As a sob, (silly old buggar!), married 54 years and in a very loving relationship with my darling spouse, I would enjoy marital love, but my wife does not!, so, the solution?, my fantasy with porn and masturbation, this talk of a sex worker for relief would never be for me! to the OP I would get it sorted with your wife one way or another, best of luck, and tell the sister to butt out!.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago | pl

    Jeez after forty some years, what do you expect Kama sutra stuff? Just be glad you're both still alive. Watch porn all you want but keep it private (nothing wrong with porn)but dont cheat with whores. How'd you like it if you came down with herpes nd the sister told every church lady?

    Ps viagara is granny abuse

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    • dytrog
      8 years ago | pl

      I don't watch porn. I was talking about when we were in our early 40's. I had a friend that watched it. I took some home and we watched it and found most of it not to our liking. Cum on face shots. YUCK. I still don't need viagra. I tried it once out of curiosity. It had no affects until the next day + it gave me a headache and blue vision. So I'll stick to tried and proven way's. A good 69 works every time.

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  • dytrog
    8 years ago | pl

    I think it is normal to watch porn to get it up. I have been married 43+ years. My wife has watched it with me. We tried doing what the movvie was doing. We usually never got past the first 10 min.m and ignored the movie after we got started. So whtch it and whack off or get the wife to join. She might change her mind on porn then.

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  • cumforfunn
    8 years ago | pl

    It is normal enjoy the porn and get through the day, but don't go for the whore idea.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago | pl

    You're totally normal, except it does sound as if you're somewhat dependent on porn, but so what? IF it's not taking the place of sex with your wife but enhancing it, I don't see any problem with it.

    Have you talked with your wife about the two issues here? One, why would she tell her holier than thou sister about it if in fact the porn watching didn't bother her? Maybe she's ambivalent about it.

    Two, you're considering cheating on her if you can't watch porn without her hassling you.

    I don't mean an attack on her, or threats to cheat, just a clear calm statement about how you feel about these two issues in your marriage.

    You could also suggest she watch porn with you and also spice up your sex life in other ways as well.

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