OP: First heads-up: Ryan is incorrect about you having another 30 years. If you're in your late twenties, 30 years puts you in your late fifties - menopause has generally occured by then - but you time frame is closer to ten years, since the risk of defects/diseases, etc. such as Down's Syndrome, increase with age, and increase significantly by the time you're 40.
That said, if you're unsure, have you considered putting some of your ova on ice? If you get your eggs extracted now and put them away for later, you could use IVF at a later date if you ever change your mind. That way you're not saying an absolute "no" to your hubby, but you're not rushing into it, either. After all, it's not like you can return a baby later if you really don't want to be a mother! (Well, there are options, but they're not ideal.) Likewise, though, if you leave it too late, you won't be able to undo that, either. I had friends who left it too late, and she couldn't conceieve, then he got prostate cancer, so now they have no chance.
So buying yourself time might be an option. Even if you don't want to go through pregnancy and labour, you could find a surrogate, but the child would still be biologically yours and your husband's.
Not sure if I want a baby
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OP: First heads-up: Ryan is incorrect about you having another 30 years. If you're in your late twenties, 30 years puts you in your late fifties - menopause has generally occured by then - but you time frame is closer to ten years, since the risk of defects/diseases, etc. such as Down's Syndrome, increase with age, and increase significantly by the time you're 40.
That said, if you're unsure, have you considered putting some of your ova on ice? If you get your eggs extracted now and put them away for later, you could use IVF at a later date if you ever change your mind. That way you're not saying an absolute "no" to your hubby, but you're not rushing into it, either. After all, it's not like you can return a baby later if you really don't want to be a mother! (Well, there are options, but they're not ideal.) Likewise, though, if you leave it too late, you won't be able to undo that, either. I had friends who left it too late, and she couldn't conceieve, then he got prostate cancer, so now they have no chance.
So buying yourself time might be an option. Even if you don't want to go through pregnancy and labour, you could find a surrogate, but the child would still be biologically yours and your husband's.
Just a thought. :)