Not inlove anymore, is it normal to stay with him?

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We've been together for about 2 and a half Yeats. It started as best friends for a couple years and gradually led into the most amazing relationship. I didn't think I could be so happy with someone before him. I'm talking about butterflies everytime I saw him, always wanting to cuddle, feeling completely comfortable, he did little things for me regularly. We really loved each other for who we were and nobody else mattered. I would have rather have spent two hours hanging out with him a pizza and TV then go to the raddest party. There was so much raw passion(this is before we started having sex) so obviously after 3 months when I told him I'm moving 1000 miles away we ddecided to make it work. So for 2 years we did long distance... talking CONSTANTLY, because we wanted to. Visiting each other once every three months or so and just chilling. Unfortunately after a while, about a year, ago things weren't so good. Fighting everyday, saying hurtful things, stupid bullshit like that.now we live together, moved in with me about 4 months ago. Things are better than before but still pretty rough. Were not where we wanna be at all. Honestly, I've fallen out of love with him. And he knows it. This is my best friend, the person I lost my virginity to and have planned to spend my life with. Now I don't know Wha to do because I love him so deeply but I'm not in love. I'm so tired of the bullshit and I just wanna be happy.

So is it normal to stay with someone I know I'm not in love with but I love deeply and wanna be inlove again? What should I do?

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  • BirdyMojo
    12 years ago | pl

    Long distance relationships rarely work. Don't stay with someone you aren't happy with because of your past or because you lost your virginity to him. Not good reasons to stay with someone O_O

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  • onlybarno
    13 years ago | pl

    The distance seems to have taken something from you that you couldn't get back. Before ending this maybe you should invest some time and money in couples counseling. It sounds like a very important relationship; I wouldn't give it up without a fight.

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  • reillyhawkins
    13 years ago | pl

    this happened to me. exactly this, apart from the long distance bit. we were best friends and were together for 5 years. she fell out of love with me and she didnt tell me for months. eventually i asked her what was bothering her and she told me, she doesnt want to be with me anymore. she loves me but just not like that anymore, you know? and while i was pretty devastated, i wished he had told me months ago when she first started feeling that way. because i felt that those few months were wasted, we were living a lie for months and i didnt even know. i say, talk to him and tell him whats wrong. its not fair to go on like this.

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    • sweetest_strawberry
      13 years ago | pl

      I told him I'm not iinlove anymore. I mean its his fault. He strated treated me pretty badly and I'm not ashamed for how I feel although I wish it was different. I'm not gonna be inlove with a fucking asshole when I know I'm better than that. He hasn't. Even done shit about it and untl he does this won't change.

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  • Cshorty
    13 years ago | pl

    Well believe it or not, alot of happily married couples are not in love with each other, but are great companions to each other, and keep each other happy and loveeachother more like a family(sibling) if you love him that way stay, if you dont say goodbye as lovers, andstay friends

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