Well she doesn't care about it, you did not care at the time and its 6 years later. Unless someone is pressing charges I think it would be better to just forget about it. So you dated her at 17 and how old were you at the time? So your like 29 now?
Okay well is anyone actually pushing charges or do you just assume someone is? If you do not think anyone is going to push charges, she does not see it as rape, and its already over between you too what is really the issue here? Do you just feel guilty or is there some reason besides guilt for killing yourself?
Just guilt for having committed statutory rape - there's no chance of charges being brought unless I turn myself in (which would probably piss my ex off, since she's long moved on, it seems). I have pretty severe OCD so I don't have much control over how guilty I feel and it's been hourly for the last few years and it's no way to live.
I've told a few therapists but none of them really took it seriously... probably cause the age of consent is 16 here so none of them thought it was that bad. Cultural standards die hard, I guess.
Besides, my first therapist was a creep who looked like Dr. Jacoby from Twin Peaks and called my ex a 'little minx' as well as other gross / predatory stuff. My second therapist breached professional boundaries by talking too intimately about her personal life and she generally complimented me way too much, to a point where it got uncomfortable and strange. My third therapist had dated a 26-year-old man when she was 16, so didn't see the big deal with a 21-year-old having done the same! :-p / sigh
So, none of them alerted the police. As said, I think the police would only get involved if I went back to America and reported myself... which I do think about doing, but know it would be against my ex's wishes and probably piss her off / upset her. I don't want to take the decision whether to report or not away from her, especially as I've asked her twice and made it clear that I would absolutely plead guilty.
Maybe it isn't OCD... to be honest, I can't imagine how anyone who had done the same and wasn't completely psychopathic wouldn't be filled with remorse and self-loathing and basically feel like there was no way to go forwards. Anything involving kids is the blackest crime.
Normal to kill self after perpetrating statutory rape? (21 / 16-17)
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Well she doesn't care about it, you did not care at the time and its 6 years later. Unless someone is pressing charges I think it would be better to just forget about it. So you dated her at 17 and how old were you at the time? So your like 29 now?
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I was 21 (as said, 4 and a half years diff.) and I'm now 27.
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Okay well is anyone actually pushing charges or do you just assume someone is? If you do not think anyone is going to push charges, she does not see it as rape, and its already over between you too what is really the issue here? Do you just feel guilty or is there some reason besides guilt for killing yourself?
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Just guilt for having committed statutory rape - there's no chance of charges being brought unless I turn myself in (which would probably piss my ex off, since she's long moved on, it seems). I have pretty severe OCD so I don't have much control over how guilty I feel and it's been hourly for the last few years and it's no way to live.
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That has nothing to do with OCD. I would say talk to a therapist but if you did in fact report what you did to they might alert the police.
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I've told a few therapists but none of them really took it seriously... probably cause the age of consent is 16 here so none of them thought it was that bad. Cultural standards die hard, I guess.
Besides, my first therapist was a creep who looked like Dr. Jacoby from Twin Peaks and called my ex a 'little minx' as well as other gross / predatory stuff. My second therapist breached professional boundaries by talking too intimately about her personal life and she generally complimented me way too much, to a point where it got uncomfortable and strange. My third therapist had dated a 26-year-old man when she was 16, so didn't see the big deal with a 21-year-old having done the same! :-p / sigh
So, none of them alerted the police. As said, I think the police would only get involved if I went back to America and reported myself... which I do think about doing, but know it would be against my ex's wishes and probably piss her off / upset her. I don't want to take the decision whether to report or not away from her, especially as I've asked her twice and made it clear that I would absolutely plead guilty.
Maybe it isn't OCD... to be honest, I can't imagine how anyone who had done the same and wasn't completely psychopathic wouldn't be filled with remorse and self-loathing and basically feel like there was no way to go forwards. Anything involving kids is the blackest crime.
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I really do not see what the issue is here.