Normal that i rather stay single?

I am a hyper-introvert, and I can't stand people. They get annoying and I rather not deal with the drama of relationships.

Is It Normal?
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  • Yes, some people just prefer being single, myself included. I love the freedom of being single. I can do what I want when I want, make all of my decisions without having to compromise for anyone else or make sure they are also okay with them, have my own money and home, and have plenty of alone time and peace and quiet (which are essential for me; I really just need a day per week to unwind and "recharge"). Also, no relationship drama, etc.

    I ended up realizing after two relationships that what I really enjoy is a close friendship, and if I took away everything out of a relationship that I didn't like or wasn't interested in, it was essentially just a close friendship. It took me way too long to figure this out about myself, but I've much enjoyed just spending time with friends and family and then having my quiet time at home.

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  • Perfectly normal, especially for introverts.

    Have you dated before?

    I want to be single right now for sure.

    In a way I always do, but it's more like I don't actively want to date just to do it. I've never once gone on a blind date or dating site or thought like, "Time for me to go out and get a new girlfriend."

    It's more like I just live my life single by default and am perfectly fine like that but occasionally I coincidentally encounter women who make me want to date them somehow. I don't look for them though.

    EDIT: You know what? That's an unintentional lie. I've said that like 5 times on here but it just dawned on me that I did sort of go on what was a blind date for me via a random double date back when I was 18 but it was just to help someone out. I'd completely forgotten that.

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    • I agree S0UNDS_WEIRD, even for introverts. People have the option to be single, I could relate from your comment because I have been there but sometimes whenever I see people in a relationship I got a little bit jealous, the amount of times I have dated and have broken up is quite a lot and as for the edit bit you have written that is sorta like me as I have done or said something similar to that except never in a blind date. We all choose to live single by default the same way how relationship is optional ( people can choose to be one. ).

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      • Agreed.

        I never feel like I _have_ to be in a relationship in general if I have no feelings for anyone and I can go single indefinitely with no issues. It's just that occasionally something develops with someone that makes me feel I indeed do _have_ to be with this person (or at least that I really want to).

        While I've experienced a lot of heartache of other sorts that comes from dating I've never experienced the pain of rejection because by the time I feel that way it's always abundantly clear they do too, so "making a move" is never really a gamble so much as just sealing the deal.

        It's always like neither us sought anything and the relationship just happened to us.

        But I'm lucky in that I don't mind being single. I know a lot of people feel like something is missing while single and view finding a partner as like a necessity in life even if there's not someone they currently have feelings for.

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  • Not currently in a relationship, never have been and never will be. Doesn't appeal to me and I can't understand loneliness as it is an emotion I have never felt. I don't like, want or need people but I respect your right to be socially inclined so please respect mine not to be.

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  • You can enjoy relationships without being joined at the hip. Maybe you're better without relationships but don't rule them out under the idea you wouldn't be able to have your own time as a consequence.

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  • I have mixed feelings, but the more I read about other people's relationships the more I feel that way. I cant really imagine I would end up in a truly good relationship that I would actually want to be in

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    • That's also how I feel, I also witnessed other peoples relationships, it made me want it less.

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  • I have a single daughter who’s happy that way, but she has many friends and is very involved with my son’s kids. I think you might be overreacting when you say you can’t stand other people. We need human contact as nourishment just as much as we need food for survival.

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    • Either way, being in a relationship would be way too much for me. I can't even hold conversations.

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      • That’s what concerns me. Single is fine, but being a misanthrope isn’t healthy. Read this: https://www.succeedsocially.com/dontlikepeople

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  • We are social animals by nature, but however their are some exceptions. If it makes you feel happy to be stay single than go for it.

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  • Yes,its honestly draining when you're an introvert cause you don't want people around all the time.You want space and unfortunately with a relationship you have to give up solitude for long periods of time.

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  • Normal. If there's a safe way to get seen to and be friends without being shackled to romance and monogamy, I want in.

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  • Me too. I get overwhelmed being around others. I think its normal to want to be alone.

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  • Im with ya but you do have to put yourself out there some what if you want to get your dick sucked or clit licked.

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  • That means you are having a sexual relationship with your hand.

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    • Not necessary if you have toys, there's more to relationships than sex.

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    • Actually, sex with other humans is overrated. More often than not people in toxic relationships do have relationships with their hands but won't admit it.

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      • Granted I’m asexual but I don’t understand why some people think that it’s somehow rude to masterbate by yourself when in a relationship. Why do they demonise self-pleasure like that?

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      • Masterbation to me is bad. If i regularly do it then i tend to have softer boners and cum more quickly when i have sex. Once i got to know this i have stopped masterbation and its now been more than a year. I always cum while having sex or receiving head.

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