My mom had a hysterectomy as well. She was bedridden for months. Even after she was able to walk, it still hurt here and there if she did task that would put pressure on her stitches. Given that the stitches were on her lower torso, her age (late 40's at the time), and slow rate of recovery given her age, I imagine that sex was definitely something she couldn't do for a while until she fully recovered, which took over a year.
Anyway, you make your wife sound like an awful person, but you married her for a reason and there's always two sides to a story. Other than the sex, what changed over the years? Why did she get a hysterectomy?
Recovery time is different for everyone. My mother took over a year to feel okay again as well given her age.
Cancer, oh no... That's right in the uterus too..., that's basically being forced to give up a core piece of yourself as a woman. She must be going through a lot of emotionally ups and downs. Sometimes hysterectomies can bring about menopause which is a monster of it's own.
Anyway I digress, I get your wife isn't ideal, but damn you seem so insensitive to a cancer survivor. Or maybe you're going through caretaker stress, where you've exhausted yourself making sure all her needs are met while she was going through cancer and healing for her surgery. You may need to step back and reexamine the relationship as whole from your needs/wants to her needs/wants.
As the loving husband to "a leech that wants my paychecks," kind a wife, reexamining the marriage to pinpoint problems beyond sex should be easy for you, right?
I see your point. But there is no turning back for her. She does have some very positive qualities, tho. She is fun to work with on hands on jobs. Long ago in college, she was the only girl that would help me fix my motorcycle.
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Sounds like she's still recovering.
My mom had a hysterectomy as well. She was bedridden for months. Even after she was able to walk, it still hurt here and there if she did task that would put pressure on her stitches. Given that the stitches were on her lower torso, her age (late 40's at the time), and slow rate of recovery given her age, I imagine that sex was definitely something she couldn't do for a while until she fully recovered, which took over a year.
Anyway, you make your wife sound like an awful person, but you married her for a reason and there's always two sides to a story. Other than the sex, what changed over the years? Why did she get a hysterectomy?
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The surgery was 14 months ago. She had endometrial cancer.
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Recovery time is different for everyone. My mother took over a year to feel okay again as well given her age.
Cancer, oh no... That's right in the uterus too..., that's basically being forced to give up a core piece of yourself as a woman. She must be going through a lot of emotionally ups and downs. Sometimes hysterectomies can bring about menopause which is a monster of it's own.
Anyway I digress, I get your wife isn't ideal, but damn you seem so insensitive to a cancer survivor. Or maybe you're going through caretaker stress, where you've exhausted yourself making sure all her needs are met while she was going through cancer and healing for her surgery. You may need to step back and reexamine the relationship as whole from your needs/wants to her needs/wants.
As the loving husband to "a leech that wants my paychecks," kind a wife, reexamining the marriage to pinpoint problems beyond sex should be easy for you, right?
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I see your point. But there is no turning back for her. She does have some very positive qualities, tho. She is fun to work with on hands on jobs. Long ago in college, she was the only girl that would help me fix my motorcycle.