No one will want me because of my small chest?

My body hasn’t developed since I was 12, 6 years gone by and I’m still the same. I’ve felt extremely self conscious of it so I always wore loose clothing and got diagnosed with bdd (unsurprisingly).
However, when I was much younger I have been sexually abused which still confused me to this day. How could anyone touch something so ugly

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  • Chest size, dick size, muscle size...

    as long as you’re bomb ass personality is on fire, then you have absolutely nothing to be afraid of.

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  • Were you put in therapy for the bdd? Your view of yourself obviously isnt normal and needs work.
    Unless you're just looking for sex and not a real relationship, then you shouldn't care about people who won't like your body. And if you are just looking for sex, there are plenty of people attracted to small chests, on top of the fact that having a small chest isn't even inherently unattractive anyway.

    edit: also I have no idea if you're a guy saying your actual chest is small, or a girl with small boobs but I assumed the latter. Doesn't really make a difference though.

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    • Sorry for the confusion- I’m a girl and yes I’ve been through therapy however left it half way. And no, not just sexually. I just don’t feel feminine enough

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      • Then yes there are people who will love you for who you are if that is what you want. it's all about tuning out the rest, and focusing on improving your mental health so you can find the good people.

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  • What about your heart? Just cause there's a lack of boobs don't mean that there no hart in there. Is not the outside that matters is what's on the inside.

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  • I know how you feel, I have really small boobs and I have always wished they were bigger, not even big just a normal size, but I can honestly say every person I have been with (random flings and relationships) have always said how much they love my small boobs! I don’t think men are that bothered in all honesty, I always used to worry but I have never been made fun of about having a small chest. Also had a baby and breast fed successfully and had a shit load of milk! My boobs went huge when I breastfed but since I stopped they have gone smaller than before I was pregnant! But honestly, love yourself. You are you and that’s how it’s meant to be :-) I definitely think you should go back to your counselling though, you’ve gone through something life changing and you should do it for yourself. I’m sure you’re a great person and you don’t deserve to feel like shit. Sending you sooo much love x

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  • I prefer small breasts.

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  • Small knockers are much better than big ones:
    you don't have to wear a bra;
    you're less likely to encounter sex pests;
    when you get older they won't droop;
    clothes hang much better; and
    successful models always have small breasts.
    I think those big ugly melon balls and huge dangly ones look awful. Surgery can always make them bigger but I would learn to love the body you're in.

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  • Your femininity isn't determined by how large your chest is, and there's plenty of folks out there that are into smaller sizes. But if someone cares more about your chest than your personality and who you are as a person, they're not the kind of person you want to be with anyway.

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  • First, small boobs are very attractive, so dont sweat it, there are lots of people who wont mind it. I like smaller ones, personally.

    However, go see a doctor. A friends daughter was not developing as normal. Whatever they found, she is taking meds to help it. So worth a trip i think.

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  • People are into that sorta thing.

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  • I actually find smaller busts attractive

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  • I’m a small boob person, the stereotype that all guys like big boobs is false. It’s just embarrassing to say it in public. Evolutionary having guys who perfer different breasts sizes makes human procreation even more easy.

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  • You can have no tits and still be smokin hot. You can have huge tits and be ugly.

    I don't like tits to big, I'm more into the shape.

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  • some men LOVE small boobs, a lot of porn women are small chested. Dont ever let anyone tell you you're not good enough! If a guy says your boobs aren't 'big enough' kick him in the balls

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  • Most of the women I have been with were larger breasts c cup or bugger. But there were a couple of smaller chested ones too, a cup. One used to kid she was a member of the itty bitty titty committee lol. We had great sex together. My best advice us not to worry, be yourself. The men out there are attracted to all shapes and sizes of women.

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  • Large breasts are way overrated. The larger they are the more gravity has its effect. Do you really want your nipples as low as your belly button?

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  • Just because you're underdeveloped that doesn't make you any less attractive. I'm sure you're very beautiful and and desirable

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  • You’re totally fine. Accept your body. You are beautiful. I myself prefer small chested women. Big boobs are not the standard of living. Just like everyone having a six pack isn’t.

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  • You are not at all ugly. Different maybe but different is beautiful. The abuse is another issue but enjoy your beauty which is in your lovely petite figure. IN Europe the most common cosmetic surgery is breast reduction. My friend said she was ugly because she had small breasts so I got two large oranges and put them in her bra and took her photo and when she looked at the photo I asked her if she was beautiful now. She laughed and said "No". Your beauty is not in your breasts. It is in your intellect and personality and how you treat others. You are beautiful. Go woth that.

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  • My dream girl has little boobs and a nice ass. It makes her figure look better.

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  • I have been diagnosed with bdd too. I have small titties as well because I’ve lost a lot of weight and I’m insecure about having a flatter chest. But, I get hit on everyday, so I don’t think guys have a titty checklist you have to surpass in order to get attention. Plus, if you’re aware you have the disorder, that can help you understand it’s just in your head

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  • Small tits are sexy

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  • Naw, it shouldn't really matter that much. Typical guys maybe. But if you have a good personality, decent human being. You'll be fine.

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  • Some men genuinely do prefer smaller boobs. People aren't just saying that to make you feel better. You're fine OP. Good luck with everything.

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  • I think you need to resume therapy, there are more important issues for you to deal with than the size of any part of your body

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  • Not all guys are into big, ole, floppidy titties. Some dudes probably even think it's kinda gross. There are most certainly men out there who prefer smaller breasts.

    We are all so much more than the sum of our parts.

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  • It’s normal to feel insecure about your body parts. I’m a guy and I feel insecure about my skinny arms. Just know that tits aren’t everything. Heck a lot of guys are into small breasts. There’s no reason to beat yourself up because you don’t feel good about your appearance. Find someone who likes you for you small breasts and all.

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  • Do men like the fashion for big tits, big bum and big lips? I think fashion will swing back to the natural look. What will happen to all the girls who have been stuffed with implants and fillers. They stretch the skin horribly, so will leave saggy skin. I think Kim Kardashian started it off. A whole family fortune founded on a sex tape. Sorry to stray off topic.

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  • tiddies come in all shapes and sizes! Beauty is seriously in the eye of the beholder! Hopefully you'll be able to behold yourself as beautiful at some point soon!

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  • Wait so, forgive me but is it a question where your saying "will no one want me" or "why does no one want me"?

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    • Will no one want me- sorry for the confusion

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      • Oh no problem. Well sure people will want you, but no one can love you until you love yourself first. Maybe put aside some time to reflect and take time to get in a better mental state. Work on being more confident about yourself, take therapy to help if you need to. It may take some time, but there is someone out there for everyone and the worst thing you can do is give up hope. Keep confident and you may find the people will come to you. Hell I've seen a pretty much full crippled man find love his girlfriend was incredibly pretty and very sweet. Trust me.

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  • What can I add.
    Some guys like a woman that looks 12.
    Bdd. I dont support all the labels.
    But most people arent 100% happy.
    Adds prey on this.
    Past is past.
    Move on, if you let that event control you.
    That person wins.
    Own your own reality.

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  • Find someone in a bad part of town, unless you already live in the hood or some trailer court. Those guys will date ANYthing, no matter how unattractive.

    Proof of that - get on meetme. Aging meth head overweight women will post photos that are sorry looking and yet guys will be fawning over how pretty she is.

    The point is - SOMEbody out there will still love you, no matter how you look. May not be the man you are dreaming of...

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