No one has ever asked me out

Ok I'm a 27 year old girl and no one has EVER asked me out. I'm not ugly - at least as far as I know and I have many guy friend (and girl friends too)and I'm pretty much normal in every other aspect of life except for this. It's beginning to seem strange to me that no one ever finds me attractive. I mean I'm quite popular in my large group of friends and I guess I'm friendly enough with everyone. Doesn't it seem odd to you too?

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  • Caligula

    I will go out with you. No problemo.

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  • You feel passed over I guess. But could it be that you are shy? Often guys take that as aloof and distant, and won't take a chance. Or maybe you are seen as one of the gang/chums and uninterested in anything else. And the guys accept that.

    Anyway, I think you are not sending out signals that you are available & interested. Get one of your GFs to coach you.

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    • IrishPotato

      I like shy girls (:

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  • andrian007

    Some of the previous posters are right, some men are just shy and you might need to signal your interest before the guy does anything about it.

    Alternatively, if you're based in the UK, respond to my post and I'll take you out on a nice day; a trip to the theatre and the local park, chat over coffee and a nice dinner by the Thames before a long walk by the river... all on me! Then your problem will be solved :-)

    Be patient, my friend, you'll be just fine.

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    • IrishPotato

      Dude. THis is not a datingsite. Porn is acceptable though.

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  • mellyz

    It's your vibe.... The signals you are giving guys isn't right. Be flirty, confident but not skanky!! You wanna make sure they respect you as well as being interested in getting to know you

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  • niicocofosho

    you shoudl ask a guy on a date. whats their to lose?
    and be a lil flirty with the guys you like, too

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  • VERTherhinoVERTherhino

    Take a little initiative, I am sure people have wanted to be with you, but just never got the chance to do anything about it. You need to give them the chance and put out signals and such, or what is probably much more effective is just go up and ask.

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  • Sabbatha

    Maybe they are intimidated by you. Maybe they feel there is no way they would have a chance so they don't ask.I have been married for 14 years but every guy I have dated (including my husband) I made the first move. My husband said he always saw me around and wanted to talk to me but I always looked busy.Try flirting a little.
    I personally wouldn't do the online dating thing. I know some people have been successful but I know even more that had nightmare experiences. If you want to meet someone, do it the old fashioned way and go OUTSIDE!

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  • IveGotBallsOfSteal

    I mean this totally honestly: Maybe you're TOO normal? Maybe try showing some of your quarks. People love those. they're deal sealers. I mean, that's why people love sites like this too. It's the quarks that make us all wonderful. Let your unnormalness shine on through a little.
    I've got a girlfriend a lot like you. 26, really cute, quite physically attractive, but just too damn scared to let her inner dork shine on through. The day she does, she'll have dudes knocking down her door with flowers.
    Give it a try! :)

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    • IveGotBallsOfSteal

      You don't have to use sex to reel people in like a lot of people here are saying. In fact, that's a pretty ass backwards approach. Everything about you that is going to make someone LOVE you is ALREADY you. Get me? Be patient, and be yourself, a little more...

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  • housecat

    Yeah, just be more sexual.

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  • CyborgCop

    I don't understand why ppl like artnais reply to stuff like this.

    I'm 27 and never had a date. However I truly believe that dating is becoming an old ritual.

    Since your a woman.. you will have no problem getting a date. It doesn't mean you will like it. But there are tons of guy who would like to have a date. Sure there's a lot of jerks out there. But you sound like a nice girl and if you see a nice guy. I'm sure it will be fine. Course I can't promise you that.

    However as far as guys go, and me in particularly .. I'm attracted to very fine women. For me, women out of my league. Some call this shallow. But I don't. It's not to say that I couldn't be attracted to a less than stunning woman. It could be because I watched a lot of porn as a teenage and that was my attraction. But it's good. B/C I feel it's creepy to stare at a real person and think bad things about them. I always treat ppl with respect and hope for the same from them. Obviously it's not always the case.

    I guess my advice is. Just be nice and friendly. And if you like somebody. Just hang out with them more. Forget the idea of "dating" and just do the things associated with dating. Kiss the person tell them you like them. I'm sure if they don't like you.. you will know.. or they will tell you so. If so then you have to move on. Or wait for that person, however that's not really a good idea, since there's no telling if they will ever be free.

    My ex. which I do call an ex even though technically I never met her. Is now married and has a child. But she and I are still on good terms. I just didn't have enough money to be with her.

    Girls have the pluses in life.. so don't be down.

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  • Artanis22

    You just now beginning to find that strange and your 27?

    Huston we have a problem...

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  • Decrepitangel

    Even at 27 it's ok to not have been asked out by anyone. Much of the time, men can be more shy than women and will thereby avoid confrontation. If you find someone that you really like, then go up to them and flirt or ask them out! It couldn't hurt to try. Oh, and if you do get shot down, it's not the end of the world. Some people just won't be interested; it happens to people all of the time.

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  • javagirl

    Its ok, Im 28 and I feel the same! Ive never been in a serious relationship and rarely get attention from men. Ive been asked out officially like once and the guy treated me like crap on the date, so essentially Ive never really been asked out by a guy who really likes me. Try online dating! It will be easier to go on dates, and who cares whether or not they are good dates- just do it to raise your confidence level. You sound really nice and normal to me, you just need more confidence and the guys will be attracted to you! I have hope for you and me both

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  • WhyItsMe

    I am Thai and live in the US. There are plenty of Thai, Chinese, Japanese, Hispanic, etc. girls around but I also only like white girls. My girlfriend is white and is a Mormon.

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  • beckett37

    not odd at all.. my situation is exactly the same.. maybe you will have to be the one to do the asking out :)

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  • donkeyrapingshiteater

    lol i searched up donkey punch and found this :3

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  • If you want to date then ask guys out. It's the 21st century-if you're waiting for old style customs to come around again you're dreaming. Today's women have to work as hard as men to find that perfect person. No more sitting at the side while the man makes his move because that man is going to be approached by a girl before he has a chance to even look your way!!

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  • ajawson

    It all depends on how you define "normal". Focus on yourself and what makes you happy. Don't let society's finest get to you with, "Huston we have a problem"... Houston, we do have a problem. The other cities are starting to get jealous of you. They want acknowledgement that there are morons plaguing their insides, as well.

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  • povich031

    27 and you have never been asked out? No that's not normal. Your in the prime of your life and you have never had any action. It's sad really. Maybe you should get a male stripper to rock your world and then maybe you can get the first one past you.

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  • Scrat

    Come on dudes are shy !!!

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