Its common for sexual maturity to start by the 6th grade - and sexual identity is not a dot on the sexual identity map - its an area (often with lobes or fingers). Some experimentation with the boundaries of a person's area are normal.
I'd say what it means is that these growing/maturing children are at the stage where they are unsure... and identifying themselves as "non-binary" is a safe place for them to be while they figure it out.
As far as what are they really and your belief's. The psychologist have known for decades that there are people in between. When my wife and I was going through marriage sexuality counseling we got introduced to the following chart (which is a simplistic 2 dimensional view looking at a globe of human sexuality). I'm going to dry to draw this here and hope it works: Vertical and Horizontal axis - I need to add dots to make it work.
(This app squished this horizontally - it should be a square)
Some people are clearly heterosexual and other homosexual (and there are actually measurable brain differences between the extremes). But, a fair amount of people actually are towards the middle of that - and clearly at least experiment before settling on what they want.
At the same time: Some people are solid hard wired Monogamist, who cannot conceive of having more than one sexual partner (and to force it would cause mental distress if not harm). Others are clearly Polygamist who need to live with multiple partners to function best. Again, there are a fair amount of people towards the middle of this (I'm personally hard heterosexual and just past the polygamish towards polygamist - where I naturally think in plurals and function best with multiple partners; but, don't need to live with them).
This chart explained to both me and my wife our "difficulties" as our area blobs of personal sexuality comfort are centered in different places on this chart (with an overlap between the two areas). Knowing who we each are sexually allowed us to adjust and live with the other (instead of getting a divorce).
Most people's sexuality area is an oblong blob squished circle(with bulges) that covers circular area about 1/4 of the height and width of a square version of this chart (just squish a circle into an oblong and add a few extended blob fingers). A few people have smaller areas than that, a few larger.
The sex therapist, and the literature I read at the major research universities on human sexuality all indicate that while Hetrosexulity is far more common than Homosexuality. That most "Monagamist" beliefs are in fact culturally taught and people who grow up without that culture tend to naturally fall between the Monagamish and Polygamish lines. Yes there are some pure Monagamist, and there are some pure Polyagamist. But, that's not where most people naturally go if not taught religious beliefs about what is so called "right."
I hope this chart and the personal sexual interest area concept helps you understand the most common types of human sexuality.
Note: I understand that chart is at least several decades old.
Edited to add (after fixing the chart): A persons personal belief about sexuality does not change the facts about what the researchers have found about natural sexuality.
You are also free in believing that gravity does not exist and walk off a tall building.
"Non-binary" is considered a gender, not a sexuality, so your chart is kind of irrelevant. There are transgenders, who believe they are a gender that they aren't, and then there are non-binaries, who believe they are a gender that doesn't exist.
You are correct. I misinterpreted the question (I'm not the best today). Although part of my answer about how younger people of this age may be sorting things out is true.
However, there is a similar chart related to genders... I don't have it handy because it did not apply to me or my wife. I do recall seeing it (for 6 months my wife and I read a lot of information on both genders and sexuality - most on sexuality), most of it from research papers or books on the subject by many decade long experts in the field.
Anytime someone tells me that they believe that there are only 2 genders... I shiver. In the mid 1960's I was taught about hermaphrodites at I believe the 7th grade level; and that there was a range between pure male and pure female. That was standard science information in Jr high level textbooks back then.
Hermaphrodites still have one gender, though. They have extra chromosomes, so by that definition they might not, but they still resemble and function as one gender more than they do the other, resulting in them being considered to be one of the genders (whichever is more applicable). Also, trans people are not hermaphrodites, and non-binary has nothing to do with hermaphrodites either.
Nine of my students in my elementary class came out as non binary and
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Its common for sexual maturity to start by the 6th grade - and sexual identity is not a dot on the sexual identity map - its an area (often with lobes or fingers). Some experimentation with the boundaries of a person's area are normal.
I'd say what it means is that these growing/maturing children are at the stage where they are unsure... and identifying themselves as "non-binary" is a safe place for them to be while they figure it out.
As far as what are they really and your belief's. The psychologist have known for decades that there are people in between. When my wife and I was going through marriage sexuality counseling we got introduced to the following chart (which is a simplistic 2 dimensional view looking at a globe of human sexuality). I'm going to dry to draw this here and hope it works: Vertical and Horizontal axis - I need to add dots to make it work.
...........Monogamist..........
....................|....................
....................|....................
...........Monogamish.........
....................|....................
....................|....................
Homo------------------Hetero
sexual..........|..............sexual
....................|....................
............Polygamish..........
....................|....................
....................|....................
............Polygamist...........
(This app squished this horizontally - it should be a square)
Some people are clearly heterosexual and other homosexual (and there are actually measurable brain differences between the extremes). But, a fair amount of people actually are towards the middle of that - and clearly at least experiment before settling on what they want.
At the same time: Some people are solid hard wired Monogamist, who cannot conceive of having more than one sexual partner (and to force it would cause mental distress if not harm). Others are clearly Polygamist who need to live with multiple partners to function best. Again, there are a fair amount of people towards the middle of this (I'm personally hard heterosexual and just past the polygamish towards polygamist - where I naturally think in plurals and function best with multiple partners; but, don't need to live with them).
This chart explained to both me and my wife our "difficulties" as our area blobs of personal sexuality comfort are centered in different places on this chart (with an overlap between the two areas). Knowing who we each are sexually allowed us to adjust and live with the other (instead of getting a divorce).
Most people's sexuality area is an oblong blob squished circle(with bulges) that covers circular area about 1/4 of the height and width of a square version of this chart (just squish a circle into an oblong and add a few extended blob fingers). A few people have smaller areas than that, a few larger.
The sex therapist, and the literature I read at the major research universities on human sexuality all indicate that while Hetrosexulity is far more common than Homosexuality. That most "Monagamist" beliefs are in fact culturally taught and people who grow up without that culture tend to naturally fall between the Monagamish and Polygamish lines. Yes there are some pure Monagamist, and there are some pure Polyagamist. But, that's not where most people naturally go if not taught religious beliefs about what is so called "right."
I hope this chart and the personal sexual interest area concept helps you understand the most common types of human sexuality.
Note: I understand that chart is at least several decades old.
Edited to add (after fixing the chart): A persons personal belief about sexuality does not change the facts about what the researchers have found about natural sexuality.
You are also free in believing that gravity does not exist and walk off a tall building.
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"Non-binary" is considered a gender, not a sexuality, so your chart is kind of irrelevant. There are transgenders, who believe they are a gender that they aren't, and then there are non-binaries, who believe they are a gender that doesn't exist.
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You are correct. I misinterpreted the question (I'm not the best today). Although part of my answer about how younger people of this age may be sorting things out is true.
However, there is a similar chart related to genders... I don't have it handy because it did not apply to me or my wife. I do recall seeing it (for 6 months my wife and I read a lot of information on both genders and sexuality - most on sexuality), most of it from research papers or books on the subject by many decade long experts in the field.
Anytime someone tells me that they believe that there are only 2 genders... I shiver. In the mid 1960's I was taught about hermaphrodites at I believe the 7th grade level; and that there was a range between pure male and pure female. That was standard science information in Jr high level textbooks back then.
Why don't people realize it now?
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Hermaphrodites still have one gender, though. They have extra chromosomes, so by that definition they might not, but they still resemble and function as one gender more than they do the other, resulting in them being considered to be one of the genders (whichever is more applicable). Also, trans people are not hermaphrodites, and non-binary has nothing to do with hermaphrodites either.