New relationship, some concerns, is it normal?

I matched with this guy, let's call him Jack, on a dating app. I met him the first time, one week ago today.
Within 30 minutes of meeting this guy on our first date, he says "I love you," It was quick, but I thought it was kind of sweet. Ever since, he has been continuing to say things like "I love you," and "I'll marry you don't worry." and "Our kids..." It is usually played off as a joke, but it's still fairly often, and one time he even said "I love you- say it back to me",

Is It Normal?
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  • No, no, no, a thousand times no!

    Run, girl!

    I've always tended to jump headfirst into relationships, but that's way too fast. If someone says they love you within half an hour of meeting, they simply can't mean "love" in any real sense.

    I don't know if he's infatuated with you or if he's trying to manipulate you, but he really does sound like bad news.

    Finally, consider this: if he can fall in love with you so quickly, it's very likely he can crash back out being in love just as fast.

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  • The fact that you have to even ask is validation this is not normal. He's a wack job. I do agree that if you like the guy, then ask him. Don't beat around the bush. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. The right guy will respect your honesty. If he is making you feel some kinda way, then tell him.

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  • No, what he is saying is not normal in the least, because he couldn't possibly know you long enough to love you. He's probably a crazy-ass mother-fucker, and you are in for trouble if you keep seeing his ass. I'm telling you, girl, that guy is bat shit crazy. Don't fall for his wacked out love bombing crap. Please run away from him as fast as you can! Trust me on this one, honey.

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  • Even if it were just awkward humor
    Is it really that funny?
    Is that really the first joke that comes to his mind?
    I think that says a lot about him
    It's more cringey than anything

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  • Bad news Red flags big time

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  • Ya 30 min after meeting...that is weird! I wonder if he is kidding and seeing how far he can push the envelope so to speak? Or if he's serious run! If someone can say I love you to a stranger like that then how can you really take their word with anything? Sounds like there's issues there if he's serious

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  • sounds like you were hurt on tinder lmao

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  • If at any moment you ever have to stop and ask yourself, "wait, did I go to sleep and wake up in some crazy sitcom about clingy boyfriends?" then it's probably not normal, and you should run very very far away.

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  • That's kinda a red flag just because it's so easy for him to say I love you and everything else he's been saying to you. I mean you've only known him for a week and on the first date he said I love you. Imo it sounds like he has some issues with love and abandonment. It goes to show he'd say I love you to anybody who gives him attention like you did. Me and my boyfriend have never told eachother we love eachother and it's almost been five months. It used to make me sad and wonder if he likes me at all, but I'm happy to know the word "love" isn't thrown around by him. And when he says it it'll be very genuine.

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  • Could totally be awkward humor. Most guys are pretty clueless what to say. I would just try to really clear up with him what he means.

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    • Or run....nah just fuckin beeline far far away.

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    • That is indeed possible, although the, "I love you - say it back to me," line seems to me over the border and into Creepyland.

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  • People nowadays say words with no true emotions behind it. He may be saying those three words people like to hear but don't fall for it. You just met him and he can be sweet at first but then turn into a rotten cookie really fast.

    I think RoseIsabella is right run away while you can!!! Haven't you seen enough movies to know the crazy ones fall in love so fast? Yeah they are movies but the ideas came from somewhere!!

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  • Super clingy, watch out, sadly he may have some attachment issues. Which can lead to alot of red flags. I'd tell him he is making you uncomfortable, it's too fast.

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  • Whoa!

    Slow down buckaroo!!!

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