New awkward relationship

I have this girlfriend. We haven't been together for all that long but we have known each other for a while. The thing is I have only had one other girlfriend before her and it was long distance. My ex was also the one to take the lead in the relationship as I am extremely awkward. Me and my girlfriend recently have gotten really awkward. She had told her class about us before I even gave her the okay to and this bothers me because this is not a "traditional relationship" and I'm not out yet. She knows this btw. She has also been hinting at wanting to kiss me but I'm simply not ready yet. We haven't been dating that long and we are young. I'm pretty sure she hasn't kissed anyone yet and I don't want to waste her first. She has also been saying things like "it doesn't feel like we're in a relationship " and crap. This really bothers me since I'm extremely awkward and it isn't my fault I just won't take the first steps especially in real life since I wasn't out with my last relationship and my ex and i usually had to speak through text (the whole long distance thing). I have mental issues that she is aware of. I just need time to adjust and she isn't giving me that. I don't know what to do. I think she wants to go too fast.

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Comments ( 16 )
  • Nobody is right or wrong here. You have to move at your own speed, but you should explain this to her and don’t leave her expecting things that aren’t going to happen. In relationships people communicate the good, the bad, and the ugly.

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    • shuggy-chan

      Worst case scenario is that this relationship ends but you learn the importance of communication in a relationship for your next one

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      • Okay. Thanks people. I'll tell ya how it goes if I get the guts.

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  • curious-bunny

    You should talk to her text her if it's easier for you but just talk to her, if she really cares for you she will understand!

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  • CDmale4fem

    In relationships, people like to feel wanted, loved, appreciated, and needed. Thats where the affection comes in.

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  • RoseIsabella

    So, ya'll are queer, just in middle school, or both? I'm just curious.

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    • I won't reveal how old we are because this is the internet haha. Teenagers though for you perrrverts. But yes we are in a queer relationship.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Well, I'm certainly not a pervert, I just call it like I see it.

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        • Wasn't trying to accuse you of anything I was just joking. ^-^ sorry if it came off that way

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          • RoseIsabella

            Right on, no problemo.

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  • The issue shows right in the options you have for us to select. This is a relationship. It's not one or the other, unless in an abusive situation, it's both of you.

    My advice would be to make sure that you're communicating properly. If you feel awkward for some reason, just tell her, without making it seem like you're blaming or accusing her.

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    • Thanks for the advise :)

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  • Averageasfuck

    Wait ur in a relationship but not kissing either ur 10'or your christian as fuck

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    • I happen to just respect that the memory of your first kiss is special for some people and I don't want her to waste it.

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  • Sounds like you are about 8 years old so you should not be on this website

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    • I'm definitely not 8 so yeah

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