Never asked out and sad about it?
I am 21 and never been asked out and I am sad. I heard that even average women get asked out. So it leads to me believe I am a really ugly girl.
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I am 21 and never been asked out and I am sad. I heard that even average women get asked out. So it leads to me believe I am a really ugly girl.
Ok 2 veryyyyyy important things.
1 you're looks have surprisingly little to do with it. I have met many girls that were absolutely gorgeous and they very rarely were flirted with. I remember one girl I was myself flirting with and we were chatting for a few hours and after chatting with her I realized this was something she was not familiar with, as gorgeous as she was guys rarely came up and flirted with her like I was doing, it truly surprised me.
2 What matters more than looks is your approach. Your body language gives it all away. A beautiful women who is shy and acts somewhat closed off will get far less attention than her less attractive friend who is open and returns smiles at people and whatnot.
If you dress "basic" and act stupid then people will hit on you. I have met gorgeous girls, but they are nice, and interesting, and dress with their own style, and have a personality. All of these are deterrents.
Guys will ask for your number if you act kind of mean, and give off confidence, but in a way where like you don't want guys to hit on you, or you don't have the time of day for them.
I don't know if this is the kind of person you want to be, but that is how you get asked out.
Don't let your self-esteem depend on others.
In your case, being lust after isn't glamorous, it never was. Majority of people are selfish and shallow. If you let men validate you with sex/sexual attention, you're going to end up putting all your energy into pointless relationships with the wrong people, until you find the right guy.
Be yourself, do things you enjoy, try something new, and strive for your goals. Live. Don't wait around hoping someone takes notice of you. Take charge.
You'll meet people, and people will approach you eventually; but not everyone you meet will have your best interest in mind, which is why you need to know you're good enough and deserve the best.