hi, well i think that the problem here is that your with someone who can easily manipulate you... there is certainly a lack of communication, when i first started dating and having sex, there was no intimacy, sounds like there isn't any... he needs to speak to you on an intimate level, if he is slipping in and out for sex then it has become largely a physical thing... i have been in those relationships too, i can tell you that he will probably realize he needs someone who is more on his level, you seem to be at odds and he may be hanging on just in case he wants a nut and feels he can get away with it without hurting you too bad, perhaps he wants to believe that it doesnt effect you as much as it does, like you said you are shy so you probably aren't confrontational about it... if guys and girls are similiar then you and i are in the same situation, i love her, but she lives a plane ride away, and only talks to me if i can be super positive and happy, she sees into me, but i never feel good enough, but at the same time i feel she would commit if i had a really good plan and was ready to make a commitment, maybe its me, but either way its not working.
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hi, well i think that the problem here is that your with someone who can easily manipulate you... there is certainly a lack of communication, when i first started dating and having sex, there was no intimacy, sounds like there isn't any... he needs to speak to you on an intimate level, if he is slipping in and out for sex then it has become largely a physical thing... i have been in those relationships too, i can tell you that he will probably realize he needs someone who is more on his level, you seem to be at odds and he may be hanging on just in case he wants a nut and feels he can get away with it without hurting you too bad, perhaps he wants to believe that it doesnt effect you as much as it does, like you said you are shy so you probably aren't confrontational about it... if guys and girls are similiar then you and i are in the same situation, i love her, but she lives a plane ride away, and only talks to me if i can be super positive and happy, she sees into me, but i never feel good enough, but at the same time i feel she would commit if i had a really good plan and was ready to make a commitment, maybe its me, but either way its not working.