hi, you already know what the problem is - your own insecurity. It is impossible to love someone who is insecure. I had the same problem with a guy once whom I dearly loved at first but his insecurity killed it for me. He was 9 years younger and worshipped the ground I walked on but was very clingy and needed so much reassurance it had put me off - it had just felt weird to me, because he was an amazing artist, very intelligent, on the same page as me on many levels and pretty good in bed, but.... insecurity is a real turn off. I left him and he was heartbroken and it was sad, but you can not force something if you don't feel it for someone any more.
The key to being confident is doing something you love, outside of your relationship and the more you do it the better you get at it, so your confidence and appreciation of self grows naturally. Confidence is extremely sexy as we all want to better ourselves by associating with better people, it's natural, it's evolution and progress that is programmed in all of us. Some weak-looking or even physically maimed people can be very strong inside and hold onto their beliefs that's why they are in loving relationships because their inner strength and self-respect is very attractive.
Every good relationship is based respect and friendship and you wouldn't dream of being insecure with your friend would you? That would be weird.
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hi, you already know what the problem is - your own insecurity. It is impossible to love someone who is insecure. I had the same problem with a guy once whom I dearly loved at first but his insecurity killed it for me. He was 9 years younger and worshipped the ground I walked on but was very clingy and needed so much reassurance it had put me off - it had just felt weird to me, because he was an amazing artist, very intelligent, on the same page as me on many levels and pretty good in bed, but.... insecurity is a real turn off. I left him and he was heartbroken and it was sad, but you can not force something if you don't feel it for someone any more.
The key to being confident is doing something you love, outside of your relationship and the more you do it the better you get at it, so your confidence and appreciation of self grows naturally. Confidence is extremely sexy as we all want to better ourselves by associating with better people, it's natural, it's evolution and progress that is programmed in all of us. Some weak-looking or even physically maimed people can be very strong inside and hold onto their beliefs that's why they are in loving relationships because their inner strength and self-respect is very attractive.
Every good relationship is based respect and friendship and you wouldn't dream of being insecure with your friend would you? That would be weird.
all the best!
and good luck!