Every so often, I find myself googling this exact same question. It gives me at least a little relief, knowing that there are others out there like me. Those moments when I reflect on my life, desperately searching for a friend or even an acquaintance that I know, who is 20 or older and hasn't been kissed. When I draw blanks, the only last bit of hope is cyber space. Here, at least, I can find some solace. Like yourself, I only have a few months left of being twenty. And the longer I remain unkissed, the harder it seems to be. It makes me feel unattractive and lonely. It feels like even my family, who once insisted I remain to busy to date (not that would have deterred me, if someone was genuinely interested), now throws out subtle hints about me finding a boy, and when I don't [not sure if I am being paranoid] I feel like they try to impress upon me their gay friendly attitudes more forcefully. And my continuous lack of significant other, or at least physical contact with, makes me feel like I am socially unacceptable, and there must be something wrong with me. Now of course along with the added pressure, I wonder if i ever get the chance, will I not freak out for fear I will be completely awful at kissing, something that I should have had lots of practice doing by 21. I hope one day, my day will come. For now, thanks for this question.
Nearly 21, never been kissed: will i end up alone forever?
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Every so often, I find myself googling this exact same question. It gives me at least a little relief, knowing that there are others out there like me. Those moments when I reflect on my life, desperately searching for a friend or even an acquaintance that I know, who is 20 or older and hasn't been kissed. When I draw blanks, the only last bit of hope is cyber space. Here, at least, I can find some solace. Like yourself, I only have a few months left of being twenty. And the longer I remain unkissed, the harder it seems to be. It makes me feel unattractive and lonely. It feels like even my family, who once insisted I remain to busy to date (not that would have deterred me, if someone was genuinely interested), now throws out subtle hints about me finding a boy, and when I don't [not sure if I am being paranoid] I feel like they try to impress upon me their gay friendly attitudes more forcefully. And my continuous lack of significant other, or at least physical contact with, makes me feel like I am socially unacceptable, and there must be something wrong with me. Now of course along with the added pressure, I wonder if i ever get the chance, will I not freak out for fear I will be completely awful at kissing, something that I should have had lots of practice doing by 21. I hope one day, my day will come. For now, thanks for this question.