I suspect the fact that some people passing by would (or at least could) see you is a large part of the reason he wants you to do this.
Obviously, you have the right to refuse to do anything your husband might ask of you, just as he has the right to say no to any request you might make of him. It's not a healthy relationship if one person forces or bullies the other into doing something they don't want to do. But I think that it's also not good for a relationship if one person flatly refuses to do something without a coherent reason for saying no.
I'd suggest that you have a think about why exactly you hate the idea of doing this. Frankly, it doesn't rank very high on my personal scale of kinky. It's not like he's asking you to go braless and knickerless and flash strangers and neighbours on your local high street. If your back garden is along a fairly busy road, I assume the fact is that anyone seeing you would only catch a glimpse of you for a few seconds, and then only if they happened to be looking in the right direction.
It's pretty clear that you're fearful of negative consequences if you were to do what he's asking for. Once you're clear on exactly what you're afraid of, talk to your husband about what he wants, try to find out why exactly he likes the idea, and let him know why you don't. Maybe you could come to some sort of compromise that you both can be happy with.
I obviously don't know why he wants it, but I do know that a lot of guys are aroused by the idea of their sexual partners showing off their body to strangers. You might think that's abusive, horribly un-PC or suggestive of the guy seeing the woman as his property to display. All that is doubtless true in some cases, but human sexuality is weird, and some guys get a kick out of the jealousy they feel when they know another guy is checking out their woman. Sometimes, that leads them to try even harder to hold on to her, so such scenarios can have a positive result for the woman.
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I suspect the fact that some people passing by would (or at least could) see you is a large part of the reason he wants you to do this.
Obviously, you have the right to refuse to do anything your husband might ask of you, just as he has the right to say no to any request you might make of him. It's not a healthy relationship if one person forces or bullies the other into doing something they don't want to do. But I think that it's also not good for a relationship if one person flatly refuses to do something without a coherent reason for saying no.
I'd suggest that you have a think about why exactly you hate the idea of doing this. Frankly, it doesn't rank very high on my personal scale of kinky. It's not like he's asking you to go braless and knickerless and flash strangers and neighbours on your local high street. If your back garden is along a fairly busy road, I assume the fact is that anyone seeing you would only catch a glimpse of you for a few seconds, and then only if they happened to be looking in the right direction.
It's pretty clear that you're fearful of negative consequences if you were to do what he's asking for. Once you're clear on exactly what you're afraid of, talk to your husband about what he wants, try to find out why exactly he likes the idea, and let him know why you don't. Maybe you could come to some sort of compromise that you both can be happy with.
I obviously don't know why he wants it, but I do know that a lot of guys are aroused by the idea of their sexual partners showing off their body to strangers. You might think that's abusive, horribly un-PC or suggestive of the guy seeing the woman as his property to display. All that is doubtless true in some cases, but human sexuality is weird, and some guys get a kick out of the jealousy they feel when they know another guy is checking out their woman. Sometimes, that leads them to try even harder to hold on to her, so such scenarios can have a positive result for the woman.