My wife won't have sex with me
firs of all sorry for any mistake I'm not English speaker
I'm husband with one kid 2 years old, Im in situation that bothering me a lot, and thinking in divorce, my wife and I the situation between us became bad and full of trouble, since we are married after two or three months she make different excuse not to have sex with me, we discuss this many time, she become good but after few week she return back this happens several times, I tired of this situation ,
before married we have great sex life , she at that time wonderful in bed and do all stuff , blow job and else , we just married and all that happiness and pleasure gone and disappear, I love my wife and did not want to divorce her, but I live in hell because of this situation,
some time I think she abnormal or even think it is not love me, some time I returned it to sort sex play things that he one day said to he want to finger me to saw how it look like , I found it rare and odd thing to do, I refused at that time , she asked me after that after two or three month again and constantly repeated this, one day when we have sex asked me and finally I agreed so she fingered me and put her finger deeply inside my ass she became very erotic and horny and it enjoyed it a lot and become very happy of it,
so after that when have sex she try to do it again and I sometimes I let her and some times I refused because I did not want to be addicted to this even I enjoyed and kind like it, this continued one year and couple of months, so when the situation become bad .... day after day I noticed that she became less interested in sex and in me, she avoided any things end to sex like kissing or hugging or even sit beside me or to sleep in bed beside me with many excused, this bothering me a lot and we argued on that many many time, now I'm lucky if I have sex in a week or two, and when we have sex I feel that she is not enjoy it and do it like a favor to me, please please tell me is this normal? and tell me what to do
I give up from her
So
after I posted this, I took all the precious advice, and then I sat down with her and I told her talk with me openly and say everything inside you ,, she talked a lot about what bothering her , she told me she wanted more attention and consideration, and, I am deficient in that ,,, then it took a moment of silence and hesitation ,, I told her what ur desires tel me,, Finally, she told me that she fantasies about fucking me and she want to try with strapons in my ass,, I told her if this real desire? she said yes and she had been thinking in it in past three years, and she likes to try with me very badly ,, I told her I will think about it ,,, after this talk we had finest sex ever for months and the next day we did it again ,, Now I do not know what to do ? Do I go with her desire? Is it healthy thing? or will ruin our relationship and our marital life in the long term?