Oh for goodness sake, ASK HER if she's serious or not! Many people (maybe most?) have fantasies that turn them on but which they don't want to really happen.
If she's bringing this up during sex it's probably a fantasy, but ASK HER away from the sexual context if she really wants this and if you want it too and it can be done in a safe sane & consensual way, set it up. Just be careful, be VERY careful: there's a saying in the BDSM community that fantasies are hungrier than bodies - in other words, sometimes it's better to keep the fantasy if it works rather than act it out, where it may not work at all.
Ellenna you are right! btw, we've got to chat dear, i have some pretty intense, (and okay.. twisted!) fantasies that definitely involve bondage but prefer advice FIRST by someone with knowledge, and "fantasies are hungrier than bodies" makes me belive you are experienced in bdsm?
Yep, have been into it off and on for a very long time with both men and women, mainly as a submissive, which is definitely NOT what I am in the rest of my life, quite the contrary.
I also worked for a short time as a dominatrix and still do, but only over the phone on sex lines.
My first recommendation is BE CAREFUL! In my experience, both in casual and longterm relationships, is that very many dominant types get off so much on the power that they drift into non-consensual acts and/or lack of respect generally, also attempts to dominate the submissive outside the sexual scene. This is easy for them to do because there are always more submissives around than dominants.
COMMUNICATION is essential: clear boundaries and safe words. Build up slowly with someone until you know you can trust them.
I've never chatted with anyone on this site and don't even know how to do it, but would be happy to do so if you have any specific questions and/or want to share your fantasies. If so, you can initiate chat and I'll respond if I can work out how. I am somewhat technologically challenged, so be patient with me!
It's kinda funny though every single person who read the thread thought it was a sexual thing. I believe it's because this would be like an offshoot of cuckholding in our collective minds. Cause no normal person under non sexual circumstances would want the shit kicked out of them.
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Oh for goodness sake, ASK HER if she's serious or not! Many people (maybe most?) have fantasies that turn them on but which they don't want to really happen.
If she's bringing this up during sex it's probably a fantasy, but ASK HER away from the sexual context if she really wants this and if you want it too and it can be done in a safe sane & consensual way, set it up. Just be careful, be VERY careful: there's a saying in the BDSM community that fantasies are hungrier than bodies - in other words, sometimes it's better to keep the fantasy if it works rather than act it out, where it may not work at all.
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Ellenna you are right! btw, we've got to chat dear, i have some pretty intense, (and okay.. twisted!) fantasies that definitely involve bondage but prefer advice FIRST by someone with knowledge, and "fantasies are hungrier than bodies" makes me belive you are experienced in bdsm?
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Yep, have been into it off and on for a very long time with both men and women, mainly as a submissive, which is definitely NOT what I am in the rest of my life, quite the contrary.
I also worked for a short time as a dominatrix and still do, but only over the phone on sex lines.
My first recommendation is BE CAREFUL! In my experience, both in casual and longterm relationships, is that very many dominant types get off so much on the power that they drift into non-consensual acts and/or lack of respect generally, also attempts to dominate the submissive outside the sexual scene. This is easy for them to do because there are always more submissives around than dominants.
COMMUNICATION is essential: clear boundaries and safe words. Build up slowly with someone until you know you can trust them.
I've never chatted with anyone on this site and don't even know how to do it, but would be happy to do so if you have any specific questions and/or want to share your fantasies. If so, you can initiate chat and I'll respond if I can work out how. I am somewhat technologically challenged, so be patient with me!
it's not sexual. why does everything have to be sexual
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maybe to YOU it's not sexual but you can bet to the guy who's gonna come to beat her it is! you better think this thru. Ellenna's right
It's kinda funny though every single person who read the thread thought it was a sexual thing. I believe it's because this would be like an offshoot of cuckholding in our collective minds. Cause no normal person under non sexual circumstances would want the shit kicked out of them.