A lot of young people are on this site so it is worth saying this: the interest in & ability to have a sex life is just as strong & important among older people as younger adults.
I also retract what I said about the passive aggressive thing, sorry to have jumped to a conclusion.
The mechanics change & it is not easy to talk about. You've taken steps around lube & dealing with heaIth/ED issues.
So I agree with being persistent. Thats hard. Its embarrassing. And she's ducking it. But INSIST that she hear you out and take steps - which could include going to a Dr or nurse together to talk it out.
She is avoiding the issue & being a bonehead. Thats hard on you. But you have a wonderful relationship otherwise. And YOU should be commended for wanting to bring greater affection & happiness to both of you. Be courageous.
Thanks, This whole issue has been the elephant in the room for a long long time. I think I might have made some head way this morning when I told her that she made me want to cry. When she asked why, I said, "we're going to go through the rest of our lives like this because you're not willing to address this problem." and,..I was crying too. Her reaction was much more of a willingness to be affectionate and without my saying anything more. I hope this is at least a starting point.
My wife of 42 years is only affectionate if I initiate it
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A lot of young people are on this site so it is worth saying this: the interest in & ability to have a sex life is just as strong & important among older people as younger adults.
I also retract what I said about the passive aggressive thing, sorry to have jumped to a conclusion.
The mechanics change & it is not easy to talk about. You've taken steps around lube & dealing with heaIth/ED issues.
So I agree with being persistent. Thats hard. Its embarrassing. And she's ducking it. But INSIST that she hear you out and take steps - which could include going to a Dr or nurse together to talk it out.
She is avoiding the issue & being a bonehead. Thats hard on you. But you have a wonderful relationship otherwise. And YOU should be commended for wanting to bring greater affection & happiness to both of you. Be courageous.
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Thanks, This whole issue has been the elephant in the room for a long long time. I think I might have made some head way this morning when I told her that she made me want to cry. When she asked why, I said, "we're going to go through the rest of our lives like this because you're not willing to address this problem." and,..I was crying too. Her reaction was much more of a willingness to be affectionate and without my saying anything more. I hope this is at least a starting point.