My wife has admitted that she is having a lesbian relationship

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I have been married to my wife for four years and I mentioned to her that I had seen her passionately kissing her friend and she just broke down and told me that she had a lesbian relationship with her friend for nearly two years.
She said that she knew she was bi-sexual ever since she was at school and that she hasn't cheated on me with another man and then only with her friend.
She wants our marriage AND her relationship with her friend to continue.
I dont know what to do. I love her more than I can say and I dont want to lose her but i also dont know if I can fully trust her again.

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SpookyPancake

6 years ago | pl

Sorry, but that's cheating. It's not more "innocent" or "not real sex" than cheating on you with a man.

Life isn't a porn film. Don't expect a threeway. She will probably have you pay for all her shit and take care of her while fucking her friend's brains out

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Eminemisbae

6 years ago

If she did it with a woman, she might do it with a man, and if you are cool with her sleeping with other people,she would even get pregnant some day and make you the dad.. If you like being freaky tell her you want in, if you not interested then tell her you are not comfortable with it..

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- RoseIsabella
  
  6 years ago
  
  If she turns up pregnant OP NEEDS to request a paternity test ASAP! The two-timing whore can play the bisexual card, and say she's never cheated with a man, but the truth here is that she completely misrepresented herself via a lie of omission and that she betrayed him by means of adultery. She has proven herself untrustworthy.
  
  I honestly think that OP ought to dump her nasty ass like the lying sack of shit she is.
  
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- MJ42
  
  6 years ago
  
  At the moment I'm angry, of course I am. I feel like giving a call to the girl i work with. She's always mage it clear that she likes me, but that would be doing something as bad as my wife has done.
  My wife's friend is pretty good looking, maybe I will ask to come in on their relationship sexually and then fuck her friend and leave my wife.
  Whatever, I cant agree to sharing my wife permanently to a man or a woman. so I may just tell her to chose.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    6 years ago
    
    Just dump her, I'm sure it's very painful and difficult, but she has clearly proven herself untrustworthy.
    
    It's none of my business, but does she work, are you the main breadwinner? I personally think women like her just like using men to support them. That's just my personal opinion of course, but...
    
    Please remember that your marriage vows said "... forsaking all others"! She didn't forsake anyone, but she should have. I don't know you or what kind of person you are, but don't stoop to her level, and don't settle. If you dump her cheatin ass you can go on to find someone else, someone nice someday. It's better to be alone than to be with the wrong person.
    
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[Old Memory]

6 years ago

Once a cheater always a cheater. Divorce her or use her as a fucktoy.

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dicka912

6 years ago

If you love her, stay with her and support her in all she does. You might want to watch them or even lend a helping hand.

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- reficul
  
  6 years ago
  
  @ dicka912 - Your user name suits you. The head on your shoulders is subordinate to the head in your pants.
  
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Nickvey

6 years ago

she cheated on you. she wants your wallet support while doing the dirty . you are nothing but a cuck for two years. if it were me i would demand to have sex with her friend or leave her right away. after you have had lots of revenge sex , with her friend and lots of anal with her , and you grow tired and the newness has worn off . divorce her out of the blue.

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- TonyLasagnaFromTheNeighborhood
  
  6 years ago
  
  *Clap clap clap clap clap clap clap clap*. I salute you.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    6 years ago
    
    Your name is hilarious!
    
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theros

6 years ago

Treat it as if she'd cheated with a man. It's just as much a betrayal of your trust even though she's not being penetrated by a penis.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  6 years ago
  
  Amen to that!
  
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  - ZandyRose
    
    6 years ago
    
    Betrayal? Fuck that; she will never be happy unless she has a husband and a wife. There are benefits for the OP. He will have his choice of vaginas whenever they have a threesome.
    
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    - Takuto
      
      6 years ago
      
      There's literally no benefits for the OP. She's just going to walk all over him no matter what. She'll want to keep both relationships separate so I just recommend dumping the cheating whore.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        6 years ago
        
        Precisely, she's a nasty, cheating skank-whore. I personally think she just used him for money and security. I'd love to know how much money she makes a year. I'm pretty sure OP is the main breadwinner. I think OP's wife and women like her are human garbage. She's a piece of shit!
        
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      6 years ago
      
      It doesn't matter if a lying, cheating skank-whore is happy! Seriously, her happiness SHOULD be the matter of least concern. If I had a brother, and some bitch did that do him bad things would happen to her.
      
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      - DaBruzzah
        
        6 years ago
        
        What guy would want a sister like you? Yuck.
        
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      - ZandyRose
        
        6 years ago
        
        Sorry to say, but you seem a bit enslaved by unhealthy religious indoctrination. When she married him, she should have told him that she was bi. Lots of bi-s get married. She is not doing other men. There are good prospects for them to achieve sexual fulfillment and live happily ever after in an unconventional relationship. Jealousy management should not be a problem.
        
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        RoseIsabella
        
        6 years ago
        
        Nope, I don't give a shit about some LYING bisexual bitch. She entered into the marriage as a big fat liar, and he should dump her for lying to him and betraying his trust. Cheating is cheating, I don't care if she's cheating with another man or woman or a God damned horse, because cheating is cheating. She is a selfish, manipulative, greedy, lying cheating skank who is not worthy of his precious time, effort, emotion, love, or money. Let's not forget money, because why else would she not reveal that she was bisexual to him from the get get go. I think she made a conscious decision to not come out as a bisexual to him for fear that he wouldn't marry her, because she wanted all the security of marriage without any of the commitment.
        
        That bitch's happiness is to me and should be to OP a completely meaningless non-issue, because she obviously didn't love him or care for him very much as she built a relationship with him entirely on a lie, the lie of her presumed heterosexuality via her failure to disclose her status as a bisexual woman.
        
        There are plenty of bisexual people who are happy in monogamous relationships, OP's wife is just a selfish and greedy skank-whore. To say that her adulterous relationship with another woman is somehow special or different from a relationship with another man is to say that lesbian and gay relationships are somehow less than or less viable than straight relationships, and they're not less than. Her bisexuality is not so much the issue as is her obvious polyamorous leanings which she so conveniently managed to not disclose to her poor husband. Polyamorous people always make a big stink about how important honesty is, yet clearly this bitch has proven herself incapable of being honest. OP should have been given the opportunity to make an informed decision about this awful woman before he married her. SHE SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF HERSELF!!!
        
        This woman is terrible person, who deserves to be alone... oh, but wait, she's not alone, she has her lesbian lover to take care of her. She is a disgusting, selfish and self serving person. If she didn't reveal her bisexual status to her husband from the get go then for fear of rejection it's still not and excuse, because cowardice ought never be an excuse for lies!
        
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EccentricM8

6 years ago

Its simple. If you were to sleep with a woman, she'd not like it. So why can she?

Don't fall for the whole, my wife and i will 3some her friend. If you aren't okay with it now, then there's not gonna be a scenario wherein you win.

Leave her. She has admitted adultery, which are bound for divorce.

Don't stay where you don't feel comfortable. If you have doubts, then trust you gut and set yur emotions aside.

And be strong. I know its tough, but you'll manage. Time heals all wounds. I hope everything tuns out okay for you.

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RogueMadCow

6 years ago

She cheated on you. How would you feel if it was a man she had a 2-year relationship with while married to you?

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atimeortwo

6 years ago

It doesn't really matter whom she is cheating with. The fact that she went behind your back for two years is enough. Lesbian fetish aside that some men seem to have, the reality is that real life doesn't work that way--- if she wanted you involved, you would have been a long time ago. Sounds like to me that she is in love with her "friend" and you are the idiot supporting them.

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Takuto

6 years ago

Because she's been cheating on him for years. She won't want a threesome.

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Nerdy58

6 years ago

In the Bible it says forgive. So I advise you to forgive her and talk about it more and please go find help. Also I'm very sorry about the problem your going through.😭😓😥😢😰😪

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- reficul
  
  6 years ago
  
  @ nerdy58 - You're naive and stupid.
  
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- RoseIsabella
  
  6 years ago
  
  He can forgive her with reconciling with her. She's an untrustworthy liar who's proven herself unworthy of him. Life is short, and it's sad for someone to waste his or her life with someone untrustworthy.
  
  What if she outright refuses to give up her lesbian lover? More than likely she'll just pretend to give up her lover, and then continue to see her behind his back, because that's what she's been doing all along for the past two years, she's not a good person.
  
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xfg-48

6 years ago

Her friend. Who is this person ?You need to fuck her.

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potainsex

6 years ago

watch her if you can

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Pathfinder27

6 years ago

Bang them both. My gf is bi and loves to have 3 of us play. It is fine. Just ensure you treat your wife better than the third-party

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magic7

6 years ago

I always suspected my wife J who was only 32 years old and had dabbled with hooking in New York City was either bisexual or lesbian. Even when we were together she always had a "close" girlfriend that hung out with her. I never caught her in the act but there was always telltale signs because she always toweled her pussy after sex and I would come home sometimes and the towell would be soaked with her feminine juices with no signs of semen. J never enjoyed intercourse and preferred for me to get her off under the sheets with my tongue. To satisfy me she would get me off by milking me with her middle finger up my ass while she was masturbating me until I came. We ended up splitting up and I never found out what exactly happened.
10 years later I bumped into J and of course she was still single and not knowing that she had become a lesbian. I was sure she would make a good lesbian because she sure could kiss so I knew she had a mouth that could satisfy any woman. We got together for a long intimate talk and finally Judy Admitted that she was slanted towards lesbianism but hadn't come out yet. I actually confessed to her that I was into the strap on play and then her eyes perked up asking me if I was either bisexual or gay? At that point I confessed it was definitely beyond curious but I've never had sex with a guy. She told me that if I was into strap on play why not learn how to suck cock with a strap on volunteering to give me lessons. Truthfully it was quite exciting getting fellatio lessons from my lesbian ex-wife wearing a strap on. She taught me a good 20 techniques including Deep Throat before she finally let me go knowing that a relationship like this could never work. At least she knew that being married to a lesbian wouldn't work.

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bulbasaur64

6 years ago

It's extremely disrespectful that she cheated on you, especially for such a long period of time, and kept it a secret. It's not fair of her to treat you that way, and it doesn't sound like she's holding up her end of the marriage. It sounds like you should either go to counselling or break up because it's not fair for her to keep treating you that way.

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reficul

6 years ago

Cut off ALL material and emotional support to her. And leave her immediately. And a suggested parting gift for the cheating wife - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0doSWS0Fj24

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BillTheUnnecessary

6 years ago

You've pissed her off so much you turned her off men. Ladies and gentlemen we have a LEGEND!

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maxboy1234

6 years ago

Ask to watch

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MJ42

6 years ago

I would maybe consider a three way partnership, that s if her friend was willing to share,and if my wife was willing to share her with me (Her friend is Bi). But I would have to have the final say and not hide anything.

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Tealights

6 years ago

Your wife is a cheater.

You have three options:

1. If she's willing to stop the affair, you two can get marriage counseling to build the trust.

2. Divorce. She known of her sexuality from the start and never shared it with you, married you while pretending to be a heterosexual woman, and had an affair with her friend for 2 years out of the 4 years of marriage (was it even 2 years or more? You'll always wonder, because she lied from the start). The trust is broken.

3. This option is a bit unorthodox. If you really not ready to leave her, and she wants to continue cheating, then both of you agree to make it an open-relationship to make this fair. It'll hurt to know she's getting it from someone else, but it gives you the freedom to search and explore while you slowly let her go at your own pace (while she's still around). This will cause a lot of resentment to build while you're grieving for the lost of your marriage. This option I do not recommend, but it's there.

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randypete

6 years ago

only if you can watch and join in lucky guy

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  6 years ago
  
  @ randypete - You're an idiot. Real life is not a porn video. Go jack off with your blow up dolls.
  
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Rogue0121

6 years ago

Threesome

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MR.mr

6 years ago

I agree with the other.
I've always thought it would be fun to be in a situation where you're at IF I KNEW what was going on.

Her doing this without telling you and getting your approval is cheating, whether with a guy or a girl she has betrayed you

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potainsex

6 years ago

you will get hot and she will make you cum she will be very happy and will be great to you

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