My stepmom's jealousy is forcing my dad and i apart. advice needed
My Dad has been remarried to a woman for 4 years now (been together for 7). Throughout the relationship I have dealt with constant jealousy from her about the time I spend with my Dad, which is infrequent since I've been living in a different state for 7 years now. I've tried to be understanding and patient but honestly have had outbursts when it comes to the way she treats my father and I. My Dad has been becoming more and more of a pushover and the one on one time I get to spend with him has dwindled to almost non-existent. He can't even talk to me on the phone with her around because she will interrogate him about everything that we say. I invited my Dad to visit me and he recently told me that she will be coming with him. I frankly don't want her to come and I fear that if I tell my Dad that, I will never get to see him. I don't think I can continue to do this anymore but I also love my Dad and we've always been extremely close. I feel like no matter what I do she gets exactly what she wants which is pushing me out and making sure my Dad stays under her thumb. Do I tell him she isn't welcome this time around or grin through it yet again?