My sons transgender

I do not believe all medicine is dangerous because it's artificial and that's your lack of logic that has inferred that from my response. I was referring specifically to long term (ie lifelong) Large doses of artificial sex hormones and there hasn't been time for that to be tested. Given that even the low dose contraceptive bill has dangers for some people, no-one knows what the effects will be of taking enough hormones to give the body the appearance of another gender. Drug companies, surgeons and shrinks are making a lot of money out of this fad and I don't trust drug companies in particular to give a stuff about whether or not their drugs are safe in the longterm.

So no-one's died yet and that means it's safe? Never heard of women dying of blood clots from hormonal contraception? Never heard of the cumulative effect of many substances in the human body: eg asbestos, tobacco, statins? There were doctors who stated that asbestos and tobacco were safe and there are still doctors telling us statins are safe: when the cotraceptive pill first became available women (including me) were told we were imagining the side effects and that it was perfectly safe. I could go on, but suffice it to say that there has been no longterm testing of intensive long term hormonal therapy.

I also find it totally wrong that medical resources are being used for this unnecessary self-indulgent process when other people can't get or have to wait to get access to necessary lifesaving treatment.

If a male wants to dress and behave in traditional "feminine" ways or vice versa, that is fine with me, that's been happening since time immemorial: it's this "trapped in the wrong body" concept that I find impossible to accept. No-one can know what it's like to be the opposite gender, so it's a matter of imagining what it would be like: there are some newage idiots (white) who say they are an indigenous person trapped in a white body and some mentally disturbed people who actually believe it, but that doesn't mean I have to accept and collude in their delusions or deceptions no matter how much they artifically change their skin colour or features. I wouldn't discriminate against them though, any more than I would against trans people, but I would definitely feel they needed therapy to get them out of their imaginations and back in touch with reality.

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OP refers to her son, so male pronouns are appropriate. Of course people using whatever pronoun they choose isn't hurting anyone but would it be bad manners to find it difficult to refer to a white person who believed they were a black person trapped in the wrong body as black? Assuming you're white, would you accept that the other way round? No, you'd think the person was deluded or in need of therapy.

Well he sounds determined but it would be a good idea to show him my post & see if that gives him pause for thought. If not and he wants to go ahead I guess you'll have to accept it if you love him. This delusion is so widespread now that I'm sure there must be support groups for parents trying to deal with it, so get googling.

Good luck to you: all I have to accept about my female born daughter is that she's bi, polyamorous and into BDSM and apart from some reservations I have about that last one I've never had any difficulty accepting her sexuality.

Your son wants a sex change? He feels female trapped in a male body?

If he is prepubescent then you might want to look into melatonin therapy which will keep him prepubescent until his age of consent so that there will be no hormonal changes prior to surgery.

You don't know what transgender means? Where have you been the last few years?