All parents screw up, we just do it in our own unique ways.
If you seriously believe that no man should ever be annoyed by anything a woman does, then it's possible your son has a valid point. You recognise that your daughter deliberately provokes him and say she owes him money from long ago. If they were two brothers, would you still criticise your son for how he treats his sibling?
You give minimal details, but it sounds like your daughter could be a spoiled little princess, and your son is well-aware that she's always been your favourite child.
Telling your son that your son-in-law is a better person than him is a totally dickhead thing to do. It's one thing for a parent to comment on specific actions and behaviour in a child that we find troubling or less than admirable, something else entirely to compare them to someone else and judge them to be a lesser person.
He gave her $500 for textbooks when she was in college. I saw it as an act love and told him that many times growing up friends gave me money and didn’t ask for a payment back. He says his sister frequently asks her to take her places she wants, and she can persist until he agrees. She has a time accepting no.
He was provoked that day because she kept doing an action that annoys him, but she meant it as a joke. She wouldn’t quit and he then told her to f****** stop. I told him he wouldn’t say that to her in front of her husband, he should talk to s lady that way, and that her husband is better example of a true man. That’s when he made his remark to me, I just told him his sister loves and she get me hurt when he gets angry and she does much for him. I then flipped on him for saying I never taught him how to be a man, I kind of wanted to punch him, but then he said he was sorry and completely wrong that he said that and wishes he could take it back.
Ummm....you seem unable to understand that just because others have given you money without expecting payment back doesn’t mean others should behave the same. You didn’t mention his age, but I can assume he’s young and needs his money.
And I don’t understand why you allow your adult child to provoke your son then chastise him for getting angry. That’s borderline psychological abuse. Women can be told off when behaving inappropriately and willfully irritating a man.
You need to communicate better. If you think his BIL has better behavior than him, don’t compare, explain what he’s doing wrong. Try to make an effort to work things out between the two of you. That’s the only advice I have now.
My son says I never taught him how to be a man?
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All parents screw up, we just do it in our own unique ways.
If you seriously believe that no man should ever be annoyed by anything a woman does, then it's possible your son has a valid point. You recognise that your daughter deliberately provokes him and say she owes him money from long ago. If they were two brothers, would you still criticise your son for how he treats his sibling?
You give minimal details, but it sounds like your daughter could be a spoiled little princess, and your son is well-aware that she's always been your favourite child.
Telling your son that your son-in-law is a better person than him is a totally dickhead thing to do. It's one thing for a parent to comment on specific actions and behaviour in a child that we find troubling or less than admirable, something else entirely to compare them to someone else and judge them to be a lesser person.
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He gave her $500 for textbooks when she was in college. I saw it as an act love and told him that many times growing up friends gave me money and didn’t ask for a payment back. He says his sister frequently asks her to take her places she wants, and she can persist until he agrees. She has a time accepting no.
He was provoked that day because she kept doing an action that annoys him, but she meant it as a joke. She wouldn’t quit and he then told her to f****** stop. I told him he wouldn’t say that to her in front of her husband, he should talk to s lady that way, and that her husband is better example of a true man. That’s when he made his remark to me, I just told him his sister loves and she get me hurt when he gets angry and she does much for him. I then flipped on him for saying I never taught him how to be a man, I kind of wanted to punch him, but then he said he was sorry and completely wrong that he said that and wishes he could take it back.
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Ummm....you seem unable to understand that just because others have given you money without expecting payment back doesn’t mean others should behave the same. You didn’t mention his age, but I can assume he’s young and needs his money.
And I don’t understand why you allow your adult child to provoke your son then chastise him for getting angry. That’s borderline psychological abuse. Women can be told off when behaving inappropriately and willfully irritating a man.
You need to communicate better. If you think his BIL has better behavior than him, don’t compare, explain what he’s doing wrong. Try to make an effort to work things out between the two of you. That’s the only advice I have now.