My sister in law makes me depressed?

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So she's actually really nice but she's also an extreme narcissist and has literally thousands of friends. She throws huge house party's at her husband's mansion, she never had a job, doesn't have or want kids and she's constantly posting on FB and Instagram photos of her body and her house parties. She doesn't allow followers she doesn't know yet she literally gets 5000+ likes on each post and has 13,000+ followers all people she actually knows and hangs out with. She's literally got thousands. She even personally knows celebrities one being a major actress.

I don't know why but it just gets to me.

I don't have any friends, I only have my husband and he's really distant lately where we don't talk much and he just spends time playing video games. I feel really lonely and I feel like I'm missing out in life.

She invites me over but the last time I was with her it was just supposed to be the two of us bonding and she invited 6 friends without telling me and it's always like this.

Anyway not sure why I'm writing this. I just feel really lonely and like I'm missing out. I have a disability so I can't leave the house much but I do work full time. It's just so depressing. Is this normal to feel this way?

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Do you have any hobbies, or activities of your own that you're interested in, OP?

    I kinda just think that you're more shy, and introverted, and your sister in law is more outgoing, and extroverted.

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  • Str8racers
    3 years ago

    If your sister is that into the party scene id be kicking it with her more not comparing myself. Her friends would turn into your friends if you were around enough. I think you are missing an opportunity.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      I never thought about it like this.. 🤔 But I don't have much in common with them.. I'm more nerdy they're the type that wear high end clothes, talk about sex and listen to nikki minaj.

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  • bbrown95
    3 years ago

    Str8racers, RoseIsabella, and NormalJudge64 all have excellent points. As Str8racers said, you might be able to meet some friends through her and her friends (and even if you don't have much in common with her friends, which I totally get, they may know some people you might have more in common with). I agree with Rose that it seems like your introverted personality most likely clashes with your SIL's extroverted one, however. NormalJudge64 also has a good point that someone with an exaggerated sense of self importance may not be the best to surround yourself with.

    I highly doubt that she knows all 13k people on a personal level, and who knows how many of those people are not really her friends at all and maybe talk about her behind her back or try to use her? When it comes to friends, quality is way more important than quantity. Also, social media likes don't really mean anything. In fact, social media is an illusion, and the worst thing you can do is compare your life to what you see of someone else's on social media (or even outside of social media). People only willingly allow you to see what they want you to see, and keep all of the embarrassing or disappointing things to themselves, so you really never know what goes on behind closed doors in another person's life. For all you know, she could have a lot of internal struggles she doesn't share with anyone.

    Like I said, it's best to not compare your life to someone else's, though I know it can be very tempting. Just do the best you can and what makes you feel happy and at peace. I know finding people you have something in common with is tough, but I'm sure you will find some eventually. You just may be more of the type to have a few close friends over tons of acquaintances (I am like this, myself).

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  • Somenormie
    3 years ago

    Sticking with someone who's got exaggerated self importance isn't normal.

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