My shield against feelings

Well for two years i think I was depressed, because well, I was just extremely sad all of the time, crying all the time, and trying to get someone to notice me and give me a little love.
I wasn't trying to be an "emo" or anything, but I just wanted to have somebody to talk to so I would try and give off small hints that I just needed somebody to be there for me (all of my best friends had moved away and I didnt have anyone...)
And well, after this one summer I grew up A LOT. I had almost changed into a completely new person. I also didnt feel the need to try and get people to notice my "depression" or whatever it was, and i started getting embarassed from showing my feelings.. but I also noticed that my "depression" was gone. I didn't cry anymore and I didnt feel this weight on me, like a huge boulder on my chest anymore. However, I felt like I was inside a hazy cloud or like a bubble of my own. I still felt lonely and different from everybody else, but I wasnt sad which made me think I wasn't depressed. The problem was, I wasn't happy either, but I had been happy so rarely that I didnt even get my mind around that until now.
I haven't cried in a long time. And so much has happened to me this year, which makes it weird that I havent cried. No, i don't mean things like, "omg a guy i dated for a week broke up with me ! :(" but things like, my friend almost dying.... and much more but i dont want to give out any personal info.
So now, when I get bad news, I don't let myself cry about it or be sad about it, I'm neutral about everything. Also, when I get good news, this "defence mechanism" of mine works automatically to not let me feel any emotions so i'm never really happy...
Ugh, what is this? What should I do to be a normal person with normal feelings again? Have any of you felt like this ? sorry about the length of this, sorry if im not making sense.

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  • hey, i never usually comment but i relate to this post a lot. are you choosing not to feel happiness or is it just happening uncontrollably? look up depersonalization, i have it and maybe thats why i can relate. not sure but i hope it helps. good luck with everything.

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  • Erm..honestly.. I thought that i posted that! It's like i was writing it. The same thing happened to me. I didn't let myself get hurt anymore, so now nothing comes out of me. i have that happiness like wow, we have this kind of food today, or being happy for my friends, but nothing about m e really has point inside me. when something good comes i'm not happy cz maybe it will get ruined and hurt me, or when something bad happens i put it immediately "in a pox" and leave it there. Even with pain. I don't complain when i have pain or when i'm sick. I just don't let anyone understands what's going on with me physical or emotional. It's no good and i know it, but i don't know how to deal with it either.

    I know i got so many times hurt by expressing my feelings to others, but i'm in a position right now, that i can't take any more..so, yeah..i'm not sure if it's normal.. i just said that so you know (as i found out now) that you are not the only one

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  • hey you think thats bad iv been this way my whole life never showing emotion and if i am showing emotion its not my actual emotion its just to make people feel like im leveling with them on what ever situation it is but really i couldnt care about it my gran died and a close friend to the family and still nothing but hey its not like were the only ones like this its the same with mostly half the world so ya know its no biggie

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  • (P.S. these people i was giving off hints about my sadness to, well they were good friends of mine who always came to me to complain but I had never complained to them and felt nervous about it... just making sure you dont think i went up to strangers asking for a therapy session or something.)

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  • Get over it

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