It sounds like there's a weird power dynamic between the twins. Who knows where that comes from, but you're in the middle of it, and that can't be fun.
It also sounds like neither of the guys is very mature, and as far as your boyfriend is concerned, keeping on the good side of his brother is much more important than you being happy.
Maybe your boyfriend hasn't yet grown up enough to see the need for him to detach from his family sufficiently for there to be space in his life for a real, adult, live-in relationship with a woman, or maybe he just doesn't respect you or care about you enough to want to make that change.
“he just doesn't respect you or care about you enough to want to make that change.”
I highly suspect you’re right there. He clearly sees you as a distant second to his overbearing brother. Tell him if he wants to spend all his time with his brother being the sub to his dom then he can. In their own house. Alone.
Setting reasonable boundaries, such as having time to themselves, should not drive a wedge between relatives. If it does their relationships isn’t healthy.
The brother here sounds overbearing and regardless of whether the boyfriend stays with OP he needs to stop allowing him to control his life. I agree that family should get a bit more leeway than other people but being related to someone isn’t a free pass to treat them however you want.
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It sounds like there's a weird power dynamic between the twins. Who knows where that comes from, but you're in the middle of it, and that can't be fun.
It also sounds like neither of the guys is very mature, and as far as your boyfriend is concerned, keeping on the good side of his brother is much more important than you being happy.
Maybe your boyfriend hasn't yet grown up enough to see the need for him to detach from his family sufficiently for there to be space in his life for a real, adult, live-in relationship with a woman, or maybe he just doesn't respect you or care about you enough to want to make that change.
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“he just doesn't respect you or care about you enough to want to make that change.”
I highly suspect you’re right there. He clearly sees you as a distant second to his overbearing brother. Tell him if he wants to spend all his time with his brother being the sub to his dom then he can. In their own house. Alone.
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Disagree with you both, family comes first. She should leave instead of trying to drive a wedge between brothers.
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Setting reasonable boundaries, such as having time to themselves, should not drive a wedge between relatives. If it does their relationships isn’t healthy.
The brother here sounds overbearing and regardless of whether the boyfriend stays with OP he needs to stop allowing him to control his life. I agree that family should get a bit more leeway than other people but being related to someone isn’t a free pass to treat them however you want.