My new boyfriend doesn’t last long

So my new boyfriend doesn’t last long in bed literally was over with in 5 minutes. . . How do I approach the subject without hurting feelings?? I know hooking up with someone for the first time is nerve racking etc, but I need some advice because he didn’t last long at all!

Is It Normal?
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  • 5 minutes is pretty good.

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    • I wish I could cum in 5 minutes. It's hard for me to cum. Sometimes I cant and it pisses me off

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    • You being serious? 5 minutes is pretty fucking lame. I couldn't nut that quick if you paid me a gazillion dollars. My dick would tear apart first.

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      • That's a long time for someone who's never had sex before.

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        • Says who? That's still pretty short although of course the expectation would be a less for a virgin. Unless the guy was being a complete moron and never masterbating at all before so he had no practice holding it in and was so sexually sensitive that he became overwhelmed so quickly.

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    • agreed.

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  • have him fap before intercourse.

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  • He was just trying to get it over with.

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  • Men don’t, there’s nothing unusual about that. If he has his way you will just be getting warmed up when he is ready to finish off, roll over and go to sleep. So take charge and make it work for you because if you don’t it will be all on his terms with a quick wham, bam, thank you mam, wake me up in the morning. So here’s what you do, have him spend time on you, what ever you want, could be a massage, a foot rub, oral sex or just a prolonged session of kissing and cuddling. Whatever floats your boat have him do it. You may decide you want half a dozen orgasms before he makes love to you and that’s just fine because the golden rule when it comes to sex is you are in charge not him. You are his prize, he will do anything you want to get his way in the end, it’s in the hard wiring of his brain to behave that way so make use of that and have fun

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  • I don’t get it. I’m 40 and still last for hours and married a model. Usually the more sex you have the longer you last. Maybe look in the mirror and open you legs more.

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  • Usually I last about 10-15 minutes. I'd say it's normal even for 5, at least for some guys.

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  • It is ironic that the song I'm listening to while reading this is Sex Bomb by Tom Jones lol XD

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  • He needs to learn that his tongue is for a lot more than talking!

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  • Might have been first time nerves. The important question is: did he take care of you after he finished?
    Give this another try, if it is 5 minutes again and he rolls over and falls asleep, break it off. If it is 5 minutes but he gives you head or at least fingers you to an O then he may just have a short fuse but is caring and considerate enough to work with. If he is considerate, talk to him about using toys or going down on you first.
    If he is a good guy with a short arc there are some solutions, if he us selfish be thankful for the early warning sign and break it off.

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  • you could use him for an egg timer LOL

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  • Always takes me 45 minutes. If you want a slow man, you gotta want the love.

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  • I mean yeah hook up sex is pretty hit or miss. 5 minutes is pretty bad but it ain't completely nothing. If you plan on seeing him again, just talk to him first and try and strategize how to last longer.

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  • Practice and patience makes perfect - or at least, longer and hopefully better for you. But yes - talk to him during sex. Not dirty - patience and understanding go a long way here. Try stopping just before he orgasms, and if you're comfortable with this, have him pull out so you can grab and squeeze his hard-on. As tight as you and he are comfortable with until his need to orgasm subsides. Then slowly continue with your intercourse. Try this several times, all the while letting him know that this is ok and you're ok with him. Eventually you may be ready to experience an orgasm, but the pauses might be a distraction for you. Assure him that you don't need an orgasm to be satisfied, even if you do. After repeating this 2 or 3 times allow him to orgasm. If you're needing more, try letting him lick and finger you until he's ready to go again. This might get you ready, too. Next time he will last longer, need less help controlling his orgasm, and be better able to satisfy you as well as himself. Patience and practice are the keys.

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  • I believe the world average is 2-7 minutes. Many guys don't even last 1 minute. And some guys are 'One pump chumps.' No matter what they do, they don't last long at all. They try to hold off but it just feels so good busting fast. They try again later. But they still finish almost as fast. Okay yeah, I was talking about myself.

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  • Look up "ruined orgasm". If you do that he will be able to have sex again after he cums. Me and my wife use to make videos of it on pornhub and id cum like 4 times while having sex.

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  • Give him a few minutes afterwards and then ask him to go again. The second time will probably take a lot longer.

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  • Over excitement and high sensitivity cause this. Tell him you want more sex, penetration. I'm sure he'll love to. Tell him to slow down the speed whenever he's going to cum with this he'll last.
    Use lots of lub. Givehandjob to make it hard for last long. Try different positions.
    Also u can give him vigra.
    Have a long lasting fun 😉

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  • There is no issue here, unless it ended because he gave up. "Was over with in 5 minutes," and? The more you have sex, the longer it'll take.

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