wow... im 21 and my mother is almost exactly like this, has been since I was very young. Anytime something tiny goes wrong between us, that's it, everything that's done is don't to verbally or emotionally abuse me, her intention is to just make me feel like pure shit no matter how much I say: "just stop this now, I don't want this argument, lets just stop no more, just end the conversation cause its going to get worse", but she doesn't, she makes it worse as though she relishes in it so long as I feel like shit...
ive never heard of anyone else with a parent like this, but my mum is seriously controlling too, or was when I lived with her. But again, to make me feel like pure shit and fuck my life up, she threw me out (telling the police I was throwing her round the house, when id actually just been crying and sitting a lot of the time taking all kinds of verbal and physical crap). so now I live depending on my friend for now, no money, I look into the future and just don't understand how im supposed to get anywhere. She went round telling my entire family and some of my friends that I used to beat her, and that she couldn't take living with me anymore cause I was an arsehole to her, but I wasn't, I tried to live quietly, it was very much like your mother. so aparently, im the one that's made her life so hard for her, and yet shes the one that keeps coming back into my life constantly, and im the one that just wants to be away from her more than anything, she has such a bad affect on my general well being, I literally cant look in her direction, it makes me feel uncomfortable. The worst thing is everything she did, and yet no one will ever know, the whole family thinks its cause im just a reckless son who doesn't give two shits about his mother and made her life hell, but it was her who would always moan and complain about the slightest thing, and when I didn't respond as much as she wanted, that's it, the situation would blow up, and id be the one stamped as a cunt. not just by her, but then by my family because she would meet them without me, and spread constant stories... I know their made up, because if she did tell the truth, my family might of actually asked what was going on and told her not to carry on like that.
anyway sorry to vent to fuck, I kinda understand why you wrote so much now, ive never really told anyone this but its in my head most days. Everything is so similar though, my mother even complains and says such negative things about people she knows fuck all about, strangers and she will build hugeeee assumptions. But I cant get away from her, she just wont stay out of my life despite her being the one to throw me out, which came from me chewing the end of one of her pens, her ranting bout it and saying I never respect anything of hers, and me just trying to explain ill buy her another one, but no, that's not good enough so she carries on, so I get sick and tired of this knowing all she wants is an argument, so I tell her shes wasting her breath and to just stop, then boom, that's it, six hours of absolute emotional distress, and then im thrown out by the police and rumours are spread that I made her life hell. ive honestly never been made to feel so emotionally distraught by anyone in my life, and I think you did the right thing to get away from your parent, from the sounds of it, there was nothing more you could do with that kind of mentality, you just have to get far far away.
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wow... im 21 and my mother is almost exactly like this, has been since I was very young. Anytime something tiny goes wrong between us, that's it, everything that's done is don't to verbally or emotionally abuse me, her intention is to just make me feel like pure shit no matter how much I say: "just stop this now, I don't want this argument, lets just stop no more, just end the conversation cause its going to get worse", but she doesn't, she makes it worse as though she relishes in it so long as I feel like shit...
ive never heard of anyone else with a parent like this, but my mum is seriously controlling too, or was when I lived with her. But again, to make me feel like pure shit and fuck my life up, she threw me out (telling the police I was throwing her round the house, when id actually just been crying and sitting a lot of the time taking all kinds of verbal and physical crap). so now I live depending on my friend for now, no money, I look into the future and just don't understand how im supposed to get anywhere. She went round telling my entire family and some of my friends that I used to beat her, and that she couldn't take living with me anymore cause I was an arsehole to her, but I wasn't, I tried to live quietly, it was very much like your mother. so aparently, im the one that's made her life so hard for her, and yet shes the one that keeps coming back into my life constantly, and im the one that just wants to be away from her more than anything, she has such a bad affect on my general well being, I literally cant look in her direction, it makes me feel uncomfortable. The worst thing is everything she did, and yet no one will ever know, the whole family thinks its cause im just a reckless son who doesn't give two shits about his mother and made her life hell, but it was her who would always moan and complain about the slightest thing, and when I didn't respond as much as she wanted, that's it, the situation would blow up, and id be the one stamped as a cunt. not just by her, but then by my family because she would meet them without me, and spread constant stories... I know their made up, because if she did tell the truth, my family might of actually asked what was going on and told her not to carry on like that.
anyway sorry to vent to fuck, I kinda understand why you wrote so much now, ive never really told anyone this but its in my head most days. Everything is so similar though, my mother even complains and says such negative things about people she knows fuck all about, strangers and she will build hugeeee assumptions. But I cant get away from her, she just wont stay out of my life despite her being the one to throw me out, which came from me chewing the end of one of her pens, her ranting bout it and saying I never respect anything of hers, and me just trying to explain ill buy her another one, but no, that's not good enough so she carries on, so I get sick and tired of this knowing all she wants is an argument, so I tell her shes wasting her breath and to just stop, then boom, that's it, six hours of absolute emotional distress, and then im thrown out by the police and rumours are spread that I made her life hell. ive honestly never been made to feel so emotionally distraught by anyone in my life, and I think you did the right thing to get away from your parent, from the sounds of it, there was nothing more you could do with that kind of mentality, you just have to get far far away.