I would confront her on it, if I were you. I'm a confrontational person anyways, but I feel like in this situation it might be the only way to get her to shut up about it. Ask her what her problem is with it (and by extension, with you) and if she understands how that makes you feel. I normally wouldn't go for the touchy feely route but in this case I think it could be an effective method of giving her a guilt trip and making her feel bad about it. I would say something along the lines of "are you trying to make me feel like shit, because you're doing a great job if you are" and, "I was hoping that you would be supportive, but all you've done is make me feel worse about it and even more insecure than I already was". But for this to be effective you need to sound genuinely hurt by her feelings about it, which I imagine won't be hard considering that it really can be hurtful. You could also throw in something about how you wish you'd stayed in the closet because of her. This approach may be a bit manipulative but it could really help, depending on what kind of person she is. Best of luck, give us updates please!
My mom keeps forcing heteronormative bs on me
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I would confront her on it, if I were you. I'm a confrontational person anyways, but I feel like in this situation it might be the only way to get her to shut up about it. Ask her what her problem is with it (and by extension, with you) and if she understands how that makes you feel. I normally wouldn't go for the touchy feely route but in this case I think it could be an effective method of giving her a guilt trip and making her feel bad about it. I would say something along the lines of "are you trying to make me feel like shit, because you're doing a great job if you are" and, "I was hoping that you would be supportive, but all you've done is make me feel worse about it and even more insecure than I already was". But for this to be effective you need to sound genuinely hurt by her feelings about it, which I imagine won't be hard considering that it really can be hurtful. You could also throw in something about how you wish you'd stayed in the closet because of her. This approach may be a bit manipulative but it could really help, depending on what kind of person she is. Best of luck, give us updates please!