My mom keeps encouraging me to get friends, but

I'm the type of person who hates talking to people, as I never remember what they said after the conversation is done. I never go out or bother to get friends or hang out with family like my mom says I should, as I feel more powerful when alone. On my computer, I get a lot of important things done because of this, and I am happy the way I am right now, and I feel like this is how it was meant to be. Is it normal to be like this at all?

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  • 111212111112112

    It's normal to prefer being alone to interacting with others. However, when it reaches the extent of hating being with people, feeling more powerful alone and your mother feeling the need to intervene, that's when it goes beyond normal.

    Even if you don't really want to make friends, Experience with people is one of the most important skills for a human to have. Being able to read people's emotions and treat them accordingly is especially vital. On top of that, connections are one of the most important steps for a career.

    You could be the best worker in the world but, if an employer has heard about another applicant from other people in the workplace and they sold themself really well, it'll greatly impact the choice.

    tl;dr: You don't have to force major friendships but you should try to interact with and connect with people. It'll help you out a lot.

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    • The thing is. I know how to interact with people in my part time job. Although I don't like talking with others, I am good at hiding it.

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      • 111212111112112

        If that's the case, you should be alright. I would worry about your mental health as distance from others can cause low self esteem and sadness. However, if you're truly better this way then it should be okay.

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  • mouldiwarp

    Normal to be an introvert.

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  • ellnell

    Same and it's probably always gonna be that way because it's normal for mothers to feel concerned about their kids wellbeing. Just get some hobby outside of using your computer, that'll probably calm her down a lot and would be good for yourself too.

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  • I suspect you hate talking to people because the conversations are rarely about anything you’re interested in. You subsequently glaze over and don’t remember any of it.

    If you do want friends then a good place to start is a mutual interest group. Not easy at the moment but if it’s something you like then you’ll feel intellectually stimulated and far more enthusiastic about socializing. In turn this should make you more charismatic and likeable in the eyes of others.

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  • DADNSCAL

    It’s all right to be comfortable being alone, but there’s more to life than work and computers.

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    • Would you say I'm a workaholic?

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      • DADNSCAL

        You might be, if your work more than 12 hours a day.

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  • Danvi

    You belong picking up soap bars in the shower room of a super max federal penitentiary

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