My mom is a religious freak

My mom tells me I'm going to hell all the time. Well hate to tell her I'm already in it. Thanks to her.

Sadly, this happens a lot. It happened to my mother, although too slowly for me to notice, at the time.

It's actually a good thing that this is happening at an older age, rather than younger, because it enables you to witness some of the harm caused by religion.

Think of it as a rare opportunity to learn just how silly it is. Challenge everything she says. Ask why? Ask how? Why should anything in the Bible be accepted as true? Why should anybody believe in the existence of god? Where is the evidence? Why should faith even be tolerated? She'll have trouble answering these questions, and undoubtedly have to resort to stock answers from her new "friends."

You're probably intelligent enough to find the flaws in all of this, but if you get stuck, here are some suggested books: "Atheism: The Case Against God," by George Smith. "The God Delusion," by Richard Dawkins.

Your mother is being oppressive. If you are a certain age, you should try to let her know--calmly!--that her antics aren't working. Just remember--when you turn 18, she can't legally drag you to church. I would think she can't legally do that now, but I don't know for sure.

Sounds like she's trying to brainwash you. Stay strong. I feel your pain.

Change is really hard to deal with.
Especially in those we need to be around.
Especially when it involves us and we don't have any control over it.

It is normal for parents to raise children the best way they know how.

You're at a disadvantage, because this is all being sprung on you at an older age.

If she was Christian when you were a baby, it wouldn't have been so hard. You would have still had fights over certain rules growing up, but the whole thing wouldn't be a culture shock.

This sounds really hard.
Maybe there is a counselor at school who will help you. My counselor is really good at helping me deal with things I can't control.

I hope in the end that your mom will be sensitive to the fact that it's new to you. I hope you can find some parts that are likeable or at least bearable to get you through. I hope that someday you get the chance to find the good part about salvation in Christ.

:) You're normal.

I'd try the give alittle take alittle approach if you haven't already. Sometimes especially parents need something from you as the child before they're willing to give in. It's like doing the dishes, clothes, and all sorts of chores and then asking to go out for the night- it doesn't mean a yes but it certainly helps your odds.

Since your problem is church related I would initiate dinner prayers and look excited to go to church make your mom think your giving it your all. When I was younger to get out on week nights I joined a Wednesday night youth group that was slightly loose on the worshiping all night part. Youth church trips. Since it's religion that has you bound your limited, but start searching for the cracks and remember to try to make it work for your mom as well and then stretch your boundaries as you see fit.

Are you asking if your what your mom is doing to you is normal? or if the way you feel is normal?

What your mom is doing is utterly ridiculous. What you are feeling is absolutely normal. If you can afford to move out do it right away. if you are hot girl I might let you in my house.

I feel sorry for you, but there isn't much you can do until you turn 18. If you are that age then just don't take it. You are an adult that doesn't need to be preached to if you don't want it done. It will be difficult, but stand your ground. You might end up alone for a while, but it will be very rewarding to know that you stood up to oppression. That is really what it is. It is religious and social oppression masqueraded.

You're normal just try to get through it.

I'm religious (Christian) and I seeme to be the only one in my family that can balance religious life with actual life life. Anyways my mum is the same and evertime I try to fight my case which is right, she always says 'Bible this bible that'. The bible does not deal with problems we are facing today, it just makes you feel evil sometimes. So basically all I can say is that I feel you're pain.

But I realised when I became religious I could use things from the bible against her plus it keeps me calmer

Agree with ^

I think you should tell her: "How can you believe in something that hasn't been scientifically proved yet?!?!"(As in God and Jesus).

I turned both my parents into Atheists when I was 14. Other's are not so fortunate. Just bare with it, once you move out you wont have to deal with her crap.

2 things:
1) She's gone overboard and you are justified in your resentment.
2) You are pouting over new structure & limits in your life because your mom is parenting you;

Sort out how much of is this about religion, and how much about power. (I think its mostly power).

Rather than escalating conflict by fruitlessly debating things that are just a matter of faith & belief - which religion is - tune into the fact that mom feels empowered by her newfound faith and circle of friends.

Accept the role she wants you to play in it for now. Try to make the best of it: like meeting new friends there & getting something out of the church's youth activities & events.

2 things are going to happen:
1) she'll calm down (sooner than later if you don't escalate things)
2) you'll grow up and make your own mind up about things

In the meantime, do get some support from a school counsellor about what has been a big change in your life.

when people convert they are usually fanatics for some time. don't worry, your mom will calm down eventually. (but unfortunately this could take years.)
i think it would be a good idea to try to explain to your mom that you are becoming more resentful of god and religion because of her forcing it on you. remind her that you are your own person and you will have to make your own decisions.

You shouldn't hate religion, or even the word religion. That isn't normal, but to dislike the religion is very normal.