This is a classic example of enablement. However, she is enabling both you and her. Does she pick up alcohol at the same time you are?
If she is, you are both being enabled. If she doesn't, then it's just you being enabled by your mom.
This is especially true if she is secretly drinking as much as, or more than you see (the reverse of your perspective where she doesn't see how much you drink). If she sees you picking up liquor then she doesn't have to feel bad about herself.
The first comment relates to this as well -- enablement goes right along with needing the one you are enabling.
I know you probably don't want to hear this, as I know I didn't four years ago, but you should probably attend an AA meeting, or at the very least an Al-Anon meeting. (AA for you, or Al-Anon to understand your mother). You'll find some amazing insights in those rooms.
I'm four years sober now, and just received my license back after 3 1/2 years. And I was in just about the same situation as you are. Except instead of my mother, it was my wife. Trust me on this one, it's more common than you think, and you'll find that in the rooms of AA/Al-Anon. Plus, nobody has to know a damn thing. ;)
My mom bitches about everything except taking me to the liquor store?
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This is a classic example of enablement. However, she is enabling both you and her. Does she pick up alcohol at the same time you are?
If she is, you are both being enabled. If she doesn't, then it's just you being enabled by your mom.
This is especially true if she is secretly drinking as much as, or more than you see (the reverse of your perspective where she doesn't see how much you drink). If she sees you picking up liquor then she doesn't have to feel bad about herself.
The first comment relates to this as well -- enablement goes right along with needing the one you are enabling.
I know you probably don't want to hear this, as I know I didn't four years ago, but you should probably attend an AA meeting, or at the very least an Al-Anon meeting. (AA for you, or Al-Anon to understand your mother). You'll find some amazing insights in those rooms.
I'm four years sober now, and just received my license back after 3 1/2 years. And I was in just about the same situation as you are. Except instead of my mother, it was my wife. Trust me on this one, it's more common than you think, and you'll find that in the rooms of AA/Al-Anon. Plus, nobody has to know a damn thing. ;)