The situation sounds too messy. If all you were looking for is an affair I'd say go for it. But you said you only wanted to be with her IF she divorces her husand. Therefore, I would stand back and wait for her to go through with the divorce and straighten out her life. The alcoholism is another red flag.
Unfortunately, married people will often say they're going to leave their spouses and then change their mind, so I wouldn't just trust her when she says she'll leave him. Let her show you through her actions that her marriage is truly over, and more importantly don't insinuate yourself into the situation further complicating matters.
Once she's stable and divorced and no longer drinking then she'll be a suitable partner for you.
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The situation sounds too messy. If all you were looking for is an affair I'd say go for it. But you said you only wanted to be with her IF she divorces her husand. Therefore, I would stand back and wait for her to go through with the divorce and straighten out her life. The alcoholism is another red flag.
Unfortunately, married people will often say they're going to leave their spouses and then change their mind, so I wouldn't just trust her when she says she'll leave him. Let her show you through her actions that her marriage is truly over, and more importantly don't insinuate yourself into the situation further complicating matters.
Once she's stable and divorced and no longer drinking then she'll be a suitable partner for you.