My husband to leave

As a black man trying to make it in this world, this just breaks my old heart, young lady. I can hardly imagine how crushing losing a spouse, and to something like that, must be. It's no fault of yours and you are your own special woman all the same, the young lady. This takes nothing from your worth as a human being. I promise you that.

I suspect some will disagree with me, while still sympathizing with you, but I think what he did was actually very wrong and incredibly hurtful. He had already married you which meant it was supposed to be the two of you facing any hardships together forever, and that includes hardships like this. While some might say he had the right, I think leaving you in this situation was heartless and that you deserve better anyway.

Of course you can get married! In fact, young lady, many people in this world, more than ever before, simply don't want children anyway! To a man such as that your inability to get pregnant just means decreased fear of it happening and it might even be a plus! Trust me, this is not rare at all in these days. Several of my nephews and nieces never want to bring children into this world.

But then maybe you, yourself, have a profound need for a child. Well that's what adoption is for and you can help save a child in the process, a child who was having a hard time making it in this world. You can definitely find a husband who finds this exciting as well! Good luck, young lady, but you won't need much because you got this in the bag!

I am sorry to hear about this. That is not the way it should be. A marriage should be about much more than that - and there are other options.

My wife and I got married later in life; and she told me up front that she did not believe that she could have children.

With that it did seem possible that she was pregnant at one point and she was excited about that for both of us; but, she wasn't actually pregnant (we sure did try though...).

Coming out of that - and some other issues we were dealing with - she finally told me that it was OK with her if I wanted a child to father it with someone else. That she would support that. At the same time she knew that my standards are high for who I have always dated - and to date I have not found a suitable other partner who wanted to have a child with me.

Most men who go down this path use a surrogate mother with artificial insemination.

Adoption is also a possibility that many have used.

God made you the way you are for a reason... and it's not your fault that you have fertility issues; nor is it your fault that the male you married was not an adult man enough to understand that marriage is about working out solutions to issues that come up after you get married.

Be blessed - and you can still find love and a caring man.

Look her young lady you married a butthead and then he left what an asshole lucky I'm not in your circle of friends cause I kick shit out of him!!!! Second dont put yourself down cause most likely you are a young sexy beautiful lady that has alott going then having kids so keep your head up you will find that good man that love you for you!! Just saying

Damn thats rough. Im sorry to hear that. Im sure you'll find someone else better. And you never know it could have even been him that was the problem.