To the original poster, I've sorry to hear that this has hurt what sounded like an otherwise good relationship. Clearly, the issue here seems to be a disagreement between your ideas of a healthy sex life, and his.
Just because you don't enjoy being woken up in that way doesn't mean there's anything unhealthy about his sexual desires or your aversion to being woken up in that way.
From a male's perspective, there are few things more arousing to me than being woken up in the middle of the night by my wife on top of me. I enjoy pleasuring my wife, and find that afterward, I wake up rested and cheerful.
You expressed that feel degraded by this behavior, would you feel bothered if he woke you in the middle of the night and asked for sex? Would you chastise him and tell him to roll over and go back to sleep? Can you imagine how frustrating that sort of rejection can be? Have you ever been kept up all night by sexual frustration after being refused satisfaction? Can you appreciate that special kind of humiliation and regret? The thought that "maybe I married the wrong person, maybe we're not sexually compatible. Is this what I have to look forward to the rest of my life?"
What would you prefer he do? Masturbate? Find himself a mistress? Some people simply have a strong sexual appetite. I do, and so might he. That doesn't make either of us a pervert or deviant, but it does limit our options for finding a satisfactory sexual partner. Try to keep an open mind. We all have fantasies, you do, I do and so does he. Give as good or better than you get and try to help satisfy each other.
Don't assume he thinks any less of you for it, but further, and don't blame yourself.
It's called respect...period...for one another. All she is trying to do is sleep for a change and not be treated like she means nothing to him. If he respected his wife he would wait until she is rested so that she can enjoy him the same as he is trying to enjoy her. Maybe because she works like a dog same as he, she may want to rest a spell and recover from her day. If he respected her , he would see that she needs that rest just a much regardless of how it should make her feel. Imagine waking up tired as f*** and finding the man you love not only disrespecting you by being on top of or behind you trying to f*** you, and that's what it is because it sure as hell isn’t making love...but imagine not only that but also the fact that in your mind you're looking at him as possibly your silent rapist because it is totally and completely AGAINST your will!! Isn't love making, especially married love making suppose to be completely consensual? How dare you even compare an animalistic type of sex drive to a wonderfully blessed sex drive given between man and wife. She will never be the same because when she asked him to stop, his sex drive was more important than her heart!!!
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To the original poster, I've sorry to hear that this has hurt what sounded like an otherwise good relationship. Clearly, the issue here seems to be a disagreement between your ideas of a healthy sex life, and his.
Just because you don't enjoy being woken up in that way doesn't mean there's anything unhealthy about his sexual desires or your aversion to being woken up in that way.
From a male's perspective, there are few things more arousing to me than being woken up in the middle of the night by my wife on top of me. I enjoy pleasuring my wife, and find that afterward, I wake up rested and cheerful.
You expressed that feel degraded by this behavior, would you feel bothered if he woke you in the middle of the night and asked for sex? Would you chastise him and tell him to roll over and go back to sleep? Can you imagine how frustrating that sort of rejection can be? Have you ever been kept up all night by sexual frustration after being refused satisfaction? Can you appreciate that special kind of humiliation and regret? The thought that "maybe I married the wrong person, maybe we're not sexually compatible. Is this what I have to look forward to the rest of my life?"
What would you prefer he do? Masturbate? Find himself a mistress? Some people simply have a strong sexual appetite. I do, and so might he. That doesn't make either of us a pervert or deviant, but it does limit our options for finding a satisfactory sexual partner. Try to keep an open mind. We all have fantasies, you do, I do and so does he. Give as good or better than you get and try to help satisfy each other.
Don't assume he thinks any less of you for it, but further, and don't blame yourself.
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It's called respect...period...for one another. All she is trying to do is sleep for a change and not be treated like she means nothing to him. If he respected his wife he would wait until she is rested so that she can enjoy him the same as he is trying to enjoy her. Maybe because she works like a dog same as he, she may want to rest a spell and recover from her day. If he respected her , he would see that she needs that rest just a much regardless of how it should make her feel. Imagine waking up tired as f*** and finding the man you love not only disrespecting you by being on top of or behind you trying to f*** you, and that's what it is because it sure as hell isn’t making love...but imagine not only that but also the fact that in your mind you're looking at him as possibly your silent rapist because it is totally and completely AGAINST your will!! Isn't love making, especially married love making suppose to be completely consensual? How dare you even compare an animalistic type of sex drive to a wonderfully blessed sex drive given between man and wife. She will never be the same because when she asked him to stop, his sex drive was more important than her heart!!!