My husband forces me to cook and clean

He uses time & money as an excuse to make me take care of the house since he has two jobs and I don't have any. I'm so sick of being alone all day and cooking and putting food in his stupid tupperware containers, also he gets cranky weekend mornings when the house is a mess and he starts cleaning things and ignoring me. My life feels so dark. I told him it's not working out many times but his face just goes blank & he looks down or away from me without talking.

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Comments ( 44 )
  • Hotdogsaregross

    I cook, clean and take care of my child while my husband works. If you don't want to do those things then get a full time job. I'm sure your husband doesn't enjoy working 2 jobs while you complain about having to clean and cook.
    It sounds like you're lazy to me.

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    • redrainbow22

      Definitely sounds lazy.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I call troll!

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    • shadowbanned_from_life

      Right, people are so dumb falling for this poorly contrived shit. I bet OP is actually a guy, and by "husband" means "mom".

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    • I doubt it. It seems like someone on almost every post is calling the OP a troll, even if what they're saying isn't that far out.

      I was accused of lying once, but I was being entirely truthful. What's the point accusing OP?

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      • pendletonGibbs

        Assume everyone is a troll and take the posts at face value.

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  • BarakaBrat

    So he has 2 jobs, and you're I guess to lazy to even get 1. So you don't contribute to the relationship or the household financially, and now you also don't want to contribute by doing house work either. So you just want to be a bum and mooch? Why don't you get a job, so he can only work one like a normal person, and then you can complain when he asks you do housework since you worked all day?

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  • JellyFish123

    i thought i heard a baby cry....oh not its just someone crying about an easy job, moving along....

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  • Unless he's making you fuck 50 black men to make a porno to entertain Trump and to pay for excess Candy Crush charges, I don't care about this story.

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  • RaelianChick186

    It's not normal to be forced into the housewife position. If you want, you could divorce him, take half of his shit, and then start a new life for yourself, with your own job that you enjoy.

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  • Bobtailcatgirl

    Divorce his sorry ass and take have of his stuff.

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    • RaelianChick186

      Agreed. It's time for you to live a life without that bastard. Don't listen to all the hates here.

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      • Bobtailcatgirl

        Exactly it's about time women stand together and destroy male chauvinist pigs and old fashioned values that treat us like property rather than humans.

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        • Right, because her husband expects her to do work, he's a male chauvinist pig, :p.

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          • Bobtailcatgirl

            Yes he's forcing her to be a housewife.

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            • If he's forcing her to be a housewife, then why in his spare time, likely on "weekend mornings", does he shut up clean the house himself while the wife complains?

              He ended up with a wife who wants to sit on her lazy heinie, with no job, and no excuse not to help around the house. That's not his fault.

              You want to see a man force a woman to be a housewife? You wanna know what a real, male chauvinist pig looks like?

              Look at the Middle East. On those weekend mornings, this woman would likely being getting yelled at, or beaten for failing to perform her womanly duties if she had a husband over there.

              Let's face it, I bet the only reason why you have a problem with this man, is because the work that he expects her to do happens to be traditional women's work. If he told her, you need to pull your weight in this relationship by getting a job, would you be so upset?

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    I don't understand. I'm assuming you don't care about getting a job. Now you don't even feel like cooking or cleaning? He isn't forcing you to do anything. You're not getting through life if you don't work. Unless you're fine with living on the streets.

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  • I think you guys need to sit down and talk through how to make this work.

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  • Blabla123

    Wtf you don't even work. You have to do something, he just doesn't want you to live with him as complete parasite

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  • thats ur duty.

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  • Dustyair

    I'd toss your ass right out the door, too many good women out there. The poor guy sounds like he's miserable with you.

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    • redrainbow22

      Nice! :)

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  • athem

    It does sound like you've become a housewife according to this. If you're not happy with your life like this, maybe try talking to him about it or getting a job of your own. He probably thinks that, because you don't work or support yourself, that you have the time to cook and clean. It's not good that he starts ignoring you if the house isn't clean, though, or that he doesn't listen to you when you say it's not working out for you.

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  • rayb12

    Go live on the street why should he be paying for you to live there???

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  • It seems like you've naturally fallen into a housewife role position, but you're not up for the job.

    If you live together as a couple, naturally you'll be expected to pull your weight, and do your part in the relationship. You said yourself he's got 2 jobs, but you're unemployed.

    The way he sees it, what else do you have to do other than cook and clean? You happen to be the perfect person to do those things.

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  • Boojum

    My first wife was as dim, self-centered, and unappreciative as you. And she screwed around in her free time. Marrying her was an incredibly stupid decision which I blame on my youthful idiocy.

    If you find your life so unbearably dark and dreadful, pack your bags and leave. Look at it this way: when you're living on the street, nobody will be expecting you to keep your cardboard box neat and tidy, and you won't have any Tupperware containers to fill. Think what a relief that will be for you.

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  • Tealights

    You're a lazy, dumb bitch basically; and your husband was a fool for marrying you.

    This is why men need to look beyond a woman's physical assets, and judge her character; if not, they end up with women like you, lazy as fuck.

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    • RaelianChick186

      Not cool. You need to get a life.

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      • Tealights

        Yeah, I'm an asshole sometimes, but at least I'm no freeloader and work hard for what I have.

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        • Bobtailcatgirl

          Work hard at what?

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  • MR.mr

    you don't work and you don't expect to take care of the house either? What are you good for then?

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    • Boojum

      She's probably highly skilled in watching daytime television or playing online games.

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  • lonewolf1253

    Get a part-time job somewhere so you'll have your own money, I live alone right now and cooking and cleaning only takes an hour or two out of my day. Plus, I work full time. Sounds like your bored. Hit some bingo games and make some friends you can go out to lunch with. Lots of possibilities. If he works two jobs, he's probably stressed and tired. But there could be more to it than that. Only you know your situation. My advise is to get the house work done and get out and do something. Anything. You need a social life and some girlfriends to confide in.

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  • Annaegg

    Troll? maybe??

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  • TerriAngel

    Get rid of your t.v.
    Internet.
    Get off the couch.
    Have a life.
    Yes, I have internet.
    But it's a small part of my time.

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  • Nightshade90

    Get off your lazy butt! It doesn't take long to cook and clean if you know how to manage your time. Cooking and cleaning should only be 3 hours out of your day tops! Learn some recipes and learn how to clean properly, and you'll have the rest of the day to figure shit out.

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  • AntiArchon

    either your'e foreal, or a troll or speaking for your mom or whoever and trying to get an idea of morality.. blah blah l'm too drunk

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  • RedDaisy

    He has tow jobs and you can't even clean the house on the weekends... But OK i get your point IF and ONLY IF he makes a lot of money ( more than just above average) and he has the means to have a house keeper yet he makes you clean the house any way... I find that kind of thinking very stupid.

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    • e51pegasi

      Why would you pay a housekeeper when your wife doesn't work?

      If you lived in a castle and you were a multi millionaire I could understand wanting a little help round the place.

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      • RedDaisy

        If you have some money, why force your wife to do everything and not have some time to do her own things? But yes i agree it sounds a little off that her husband has tow jobs and she complains So much,...

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        • Boojum

          It sounds like she has plenty of time to "do her own things", since the guy is only able to be home when he isn't on the clock at one of his two jobs.

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          • RedDaisy

            Yes... I don't get her point very well either. Except if he has a lot of money....

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            • e51pegasi

              If he had a lot of money she wouldn't be bored & she wouldn't be shovelling her cooking in to Tupperware presumably to,

              1 Save money to keep a roof over their heads.
              2 Save time as he has two jobs.

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