How old is your grandmother? Many older people have trouble retaining weight. Anorexia is about body image / body dysmorphia and has little to with actual weight.
Also, you are considered overweight for 5'4 if you are female.
I'm aware I am overweight. I am actually recovered from anorexia for 3 years. I am only 10 lbs overweight. I know what anorexia looks like and this is it.
And my grandmother always has something to say about MY weight, or says something about the rare occasion I decide to eat 2 slices of pizza. Also if someone at Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner puts a lot on her plate she gets overwhelmed and freaks out.
10 lbs is nothing to worry about, in my eyes, as far as being what the standards say is overweight. When I went into the Navy in 1978 I was 6'1" and I weighed 215 lbs. The "guidelines" said I should have weighed like 196 lbs. If I was I looked sickly thin. So those guidelines I feel are not carved in stone. We are all a bit different when body type, sizes, weights. A female that's 5'4" might weigh 100 lbs, another female 5'4" might weigh 115 and be much bigger in the breasts. So how can the guides be meant for all ? So Coolio, don't worry about those extra 10, unless they turn into 15 or 20. That would be for your own health.
My grandmother's dead, but if she talked to me like that I would probably feel compelled to tell her to go fuck herself. I know that's not very nice, but I have to be honest.
How old is your grandmother? Honestly if she continues the way she does she will have problems with osteoporosis.
Also, I don't think you are automatically overweight for your height. I think the ideal weight for a woman your height is probably somewhere between 113 and 154 pounds depending on how large or small your frame is, and how much muscle mass you have. Regardless, it's much better to weigh 150 pounds than 90 pounds. You said that you have been anorexic in the past so perhaps you inherited it from your grandmother. Good on you for having enough concern for her health to notice her mental illness, because that's what it is. Whatever you do don't listen to any of the stupid things she says about you eating pizza! Your grandmother is obviously the last person you should ever listen to about diet and health. Good on you for your recovery from anorexia. Hang in there, and keep up the good work!
My point on the overweight is OP mentioned they would be waisting away if they lost a few, which is not true at all. Clearly there are weight issues at play in this family.
nikkiclaire yes I would be wasting away. I was treated for eating disorders at 125 lbs because I have a large bone structure. Whenever I do become healthy weight and weigh 135-140 lbs everyone has something to say about it. Guess I can't win.
nikkiclaire 135 would be healthy for most, but not for me because at 135 I am triggered to lose more and more weight, would be eating only vegetarian meals and exercising 3 hours a day AND puking up half of my food.
Wow! That's almost my mom's age. I still think starving yourself will really hurt you bones and teeth. I imagine if she had a medium frame that 120 would probably be close to ideal.
My grandmother has anorexia nervosa and I'm the only person who knows
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How old is your grandmother? Many older people have trouble retaining weight. Anorexia is about body image / body dysmorphia and has little to with actual weight.
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I'm aware I am overweight. I am actually recovered from anorexia for 3 years. I am only 10 lbs overweight. I know what anorexia looks like and this is it.
And my grandmother always has something to say about MY weight, or says something about the rare occasion I decide to eat 2 slices of pizza. Also if someone at Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner puts a lot on her plate she gets overwhelmed and freaks out.
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10 lbs is nothing to worry about, in my eyes, as far as being what the standards say is overweight. When I went into the Navy in 1978 I was 6'1" and I weighed 215 lbs. The "guidelines" said I should have weighed like 196 lbs. If I was I looked sickly thin. So those guidelines I feel are not carved in stone. We are all a bit different when body type, sizes, weights. A female that's 5'4" might weigh 100 lbs, another female 5'4" might weigh 115 and be much bigger in the breasts. So how can the guides be meant for all ? So Coolio, don't worry about those extra 10, unless they turn into 15 or 20. That would be for your own health.
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My grandmother's dead, but if she talked to me like that I would probably feel compelled to tell her to go fuck herself. I know that's not very nice, but I have to be honest.
How old is your grandmother? Honestly if she continues the way she does she will have problems with osteoporosis.
Also, I don't think you are automatically overweight for your height. I think the ideal weight for a woman your height is probably somewhere between 113 and 154 pounds depending on how large or small your frame is, and how much muscle mass you have. Regardless, it's much better to weigh 150 pounds than 90 pounds. You said that you have been anorexic in the past so perhaps you inherited it from your grandmother. Good on you for having enough concern for her health to notice her mental illness, because that's what it is. Whatever you do don't listen to any of the stupid things she says about you eating pizza! Your grandmother is obviously the last person you should ever listen to about diet and health. Good on you for your recovery from anorexia. Hang in there, and keep up the good work!
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My point on the overweight is OP mentioned they would be waisting away if they lost a few, which is not true at all. Clearly there are weight issues at play in this family.
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nikkiclaire yes I would be wasting away. I was treated for eating disorders at 125 lbs because I have a large bone structure. Whenever I do become healthy weight and weigh 135-140 lbs everyone has something to say about it. Guess I can't win.
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135 is a healthy weight for your height. 150 is overweight. I just used the weight tables hun.
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nikkiclaire 135 would be healthy for most, but not for me because at 135 I am triggered to lose more and more weight, would be eating only vegetarian meals and exercising 3 hours a day AND puking up half of my food.
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RoseIsabella My grandmother is 78 years old
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Wow! That's almost my mom's age. I still think starving yourself will really hurt you bones and teeth. I imagine if she had a medium frame that 120 would probably be close to ideal.