My girlfriend of 6 months lied about having herpes (hsv-1), iin?

I'm sorry but I've never quite understood why people make herpes sound like a death sentence. It is serious that she lied but everyone lies and about 4 out of 5 people have HSV-1. My mom had cold sores when she was pregnant and never after that. I don't have it..that I know of but could and just haven't had an outbreak for 25 years.
Sure it's an incurable disease but does it kill you? Nope. The virus just wants to live and it needs you to do that. Maybe this will help put it in perspective. Another virus part of the herpes family is the chicken pox virus (Varicella Zoster) This virus stays in your nervous system after causing chicken pox and is with you for the rest of your life as well. Instead of causing sporadic outbreaks like HSV 1 or 2, Varicella Zoster jumps out usually later in life as shingles (although I knew a kid in 6th grade that got shingles...poor guy.) Like HSV 1 and 2, the outbreak of shingles is random but occurs usually in people 65 years or older although some that had chicken pox will never suffer through shingles.
I guess my point is that herpes, like chicken pox, is ugly but I don't think you should ridicule people that have it. The outbreaks come and go. So what? There's medication that can control outbreaks (remember the Valtrex "It's a brand new day" commercial?!) Plus, unlike other STD's, it doesn't kill you, damage your brain, or reduce fertility yay!

Cold sores aren't an STD, everyone has them. I think the stigma around stuff that 90 percent of people have like herpes and HPV is religious propaganda to stop us fucking each other - if you have sex with someone who has had sex with someone else at any point, you probably have them. If you don't want them, don't have sex. Or kiss anyone. Ever.

I've never had a cold sore, but my mum gets them and she kissed me when I was a baby etc so I might have the virus. You can't test for it, it's harmless, and I've never had an outbreak. Am I going to go around telling partners, hey, I may or may not have cold sores but there's no way of knowing? Obviously fucking not.

It's just childish and immature to get so wound up about things like this. Would you be pissed at a partner who gave you a cold? Herpes is just as common. You probably had it already anyway.

Its a super big deal to me...
also if she lied about this what else is she keeping from you!!! I would be less trusting after a big lie like that.
it seems to me like she was never going to tell you and only confessed when she was about to be caught...how dishonest.

I think any sexually transmitted diseases are a big deal. You owe it to your potential sex partner to disclose that information so that everyone can stay safe.
She is just spreading the disease by not telling her partners...in a way purposefully infecting them and harming them.

Well it is only a moderate issue.

As you say nearly everyone has HSV-1 from childhood in USA. So most don't think much about it. They even still call it "cold sore".

Anyone who has such a "cold sore" SHOULD protect anyone they contact, it can be transferred oral-oral, when active and oral-genital as well etc. So they should be aware of this and protect anyone else (no kissing or more with a "cold sore".

But look, everyone seems to have HSV-1 though dormant. Most adults can remember having break-outs as children and teens, but maybe not for years. You don't think about it much, do you? Does everyone go around telling each other "I used to get cold sores as a kid, so I have HSV-1?" Perhaps they should but it doesn't seem to happen today does it? Is it because it is so common?

Since she was aware of it maybe she might have though to tell you--- maybe--- but do you really think she held back? Or did the fact you were getting tested just make her think of it--- and so then prompt her to speak up?

Maybe the last is likely. Why don't you ask about it in that way? At least you two may feel better about it, and use the opportunity to open up and discuss any other stuff that might affect the both of you.

OK so here are the facts: HSV-1 is not a sexually transmitted disease. You can get it from a watr bottle, or from Aunt Martha kissing you as a baby, and most people do. It contains 50 percent of the DNA of HSV-2 but it prefers the mouth site and doesn't as readily go to the genital area. If it does, the virus is very weak-- the person usually only has one outbreak their entire lives and it is such a small sore that 80 percent of people don't even notice it. It's not at all like having HSV-2. Almost 100 percent of people world-wide have HSV-1, and if you carry the antibodies for it, you can't even get that type genitally-- it's impossible. His girlfriend hasn't even had an outbreak and probably never will,because it usually outbreaks shortly after being exposed. So it's a non-issue.The reason people don't tell is because for 80 percent of the population it causes no symptoms at all, so why should they tell when everyone freaks out because they are woefully misinformed? Most people don't get tested because they don't want to know-- this girl was responsible enough to get tested. HSV-2 is another matter altogether. If you have sex with someone with HSV-2 every day, you will probably get it in a matter of weeks or months. If you only have sex once a week, it will take years, but you will get it. Condoms don't entirely protect against it because they cover only 50 percent of the area that can transmit it. So if she lied about HSV-2, she would warrant the comments on here. But HSV-1 on the mouth when she hasn't had an outbreak? Good grief!Get educated before you mouth off, people!

This ... reminds me of a slightly awful/hilarious thing:
I had been dating the guy who was to become my BF for about 1,5 months or so when he looks at me saying: I got a call from the hospital today ...my ex has chlamydia.

he assumes I'll get upset but I just shrug, it's no biggie but since he brought the topic up I swallow and say: Well ... dude ... I sorta think that I have genital warts.
He looks at me saying: Well, so do I!

So, we are both fucking assholes and none of us can be mad at one another for it xD

I'm so sorry this happened to you and yeah it's a big deal. She should have told you period.

No, it's NOT OK! And yes, your health is a HUGE deal! Herpes doesn't go away and she's withholding that she could give you a permanent and potentially life altering disease!

You need to leave her, dude. She is dishonest and does NOT care about your health!

RUN and don't look back your girlfriends deserves better!!

This would be a huge deal to me, if I contracted any STD from a sexual partner. I would be just shy of murder in my rage.
I would get a lawyer and sue her for all future medical expenses that might arise from this disease. I would seek huge punitive damages because this might dissuade someone from becoming my lover/wife/life partner. Does this mean you cannot kiss another person again safely, ever? Your kids, wife, family?
This girl has potentially ruined your life and if criminal charges can be brought, I would do that as well. She is a foul, irresponsible, despicable person.

I don't even know what herpes is but I think you should just get rid of that girl. A liar is a cheater is a thief is a criminal is a murderer

She gave you a INCURABLE disease, that's a huge deal. She could have easily given you HIV or genital warts. Anyone that allows a person to have unprotected sexual contact with them knowing they have an INCURABLE disease is an awful person. If she'll keep that from you she'll keep anything from you. She is not trustworthy, and she jeopardized your health. It's not possible to be extremely honest and open with someone that didn't tell you they had an INCURABLE disease. She told you when she thought you would find out from a STD test. Not because she cared or didn't want to keep holding the secret, she didn't have a choice. If you have kids you won't be able to kiss them, and that's horrible. If I get infected with an STD let it be because my actions caused it, not because I was lied to by someone I trusted. There doesn't have to be a outbreak for Herpes to be passed to you. I would not stay to hear her other secrets.