Okay, you say she will be devastated (suicidal) if you leave her, but cheating is an option you're willing to consider? Wouldn't cheating do far more damage if she were to find out?
Cheating is wrong; if you're unhappy with here simply because of her weight and depression, try to encourage her to go out with your for walks and to do more physical activities (join a gym?). Try to talk to her about what's going on in her life. Some women need to feel loved in order to find motivation to better themselves.
There was once a saying that a woman who is beautiful can be turned not-so beautiful if her man isn't treating her right. You may want to consider how you have been resolving issues with her. Have you allowed her to express herself? I think not, because if you have, you would know what's bothering her or causing her to spiral downward like this.
Financial irresponsibility with one's own money is fine and can be corrected in time with guidance, but if she's spending YOUR money irresponsibly, then don't give her access to your money.
You may want to consider taking her to counseling once a week for like 6-8 sessions to assess the situation. I took my fiancée to one session and she never felt the need to go back, although I think it would've helped for her to go a few more times.
Anyhow, good luck and remember, do unto others as you would have done unto you! CHEATING = HURTFUL AND WRONG (it's better to leave then to cheat, but even better to stay and work things out if you love her)
My girlfriend is depressed, lazy, and getting fat
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Okay, you say she will be devastated (suicidal) if you leave her, but cheating is an option you're willing to consider? Wouldn't cheating do far more damage if she were to find out?
Cheating is wrong; if you're unhappy with here simply because of her weight and depression, try to encourage her to go out with your for walks and to do more physical activities (join a gym?). Try to talk to her about what's going on in her life. Some women need to feel loved in order to find motivation to better themselves.
There was once a saying that a woman who is beautiful can be turned not-so beautiful if her man isn't treating her right. You may want to consider how you have been resolving issues with her. Have you allowed her to express herself? I think not, because if you have, you would know what's bothering her or causing her to spiral downward like this.
Financial irresponsibility with one's own money is fine and can be corrected in time with guidance, but if she's spending YOUR money irresponsibly, then don't give her access to your money.
You may want to consider taking her to counseling once a week for like 6-8 sessions to assess the situation. I took my fiancée to one session and she never felt the need to go back, although I think it would've helped for her to go a few more times.
Anyhow, good luck and remember, do unto others as you would have done unto you! CHEATING = HURTFUL AND WRONG (it's better to leave then to cheat, but even better to stay and work things out if you love her)