My girlfriend is depressed, lazy, and getting fat

From my point of view, it looks like you don't love her. If you do you shouldn't worry about her weight gain, weight can be lost, but don't lose her over the fact that she has all these undesirable characteristics. These can all be fix. Never ever cheat on her, you wouldn't want that if you were the one who is gaining weight and is going through depression. If you can't handle this, then by all means, just end it. End it cleanly and swiftly, don't sugar coat it.

(I've been through something similar to this as well. Good luck.)

I don't think you're asking yourself the right question. Do you love her? If you're just killing time, or if you're just used to being around her, then you need to come clean and end the relationship. She may become suicidal but if it wasn't you it would have been something else.
And if you love her, you could try persuading her to get some professional help. If you don't have the money start searching for free clinics where you can ask advice. Be proactive.

As someone who suffers with depression, this disgusts me. You do not love her - or even care about her, it seems - so you should leave her. She deserves better. Yes, she will be extremely sad if you leave her, but it'd hurt way more if you strung her along any longer than necessary when you have no feelings for her, and especially if you cheat. Us who are depressed have the tendency to think "all or nothing". If you cheat on her, there is a good chance she will think all men are like that, and drive herself further into hopelessness.
If you really loved her, you would stay beside her through her depression. Has it ever occured to you what SHE is going through? Being depressed is a living hell. You cannot think properly and all you feel is pain and complete hopelessness and don't see the point to staying alive anymore, let alone excersizing. It is a physical disorder, the serotonin and norepinephrine (the chemicals in your brain responsible for making you feel good, making good decisions, controlling your appetite and your sleeping patterns) are depleted in her brain. It is not something she can control. So if what you are concerned about is her weight and being "brought down", you don't care about her and you are quite selfish. Please, let her move on. She deserves someone much better than you. Urge her to get treatment, but don't stay with her. If you can't stand by her through this, then it simply won't work out.

Leave the fat pig. If a woman let's herself and fat and gross, she has no right to expect her guy to stay with her. And I'm a girl.

Okay, you say she will be devastated (suicidal) if you leave her, but cheating is an option you're willing to consider? Wouldn't cheating do far more damage if she were to find out?

Cheating is wrong; if you're unhappy with here simply because of her weight and depression, try to encourage her to go out with your for walks and to do more physical activities (join a gym?). Try to talk to her about what's going on in her life. Some women need to feel loved in order to find motivation to better themselves.

There was once a saying that a woman who is beautiful can be turned not-so beautiful if her man isn't treating her right. You may want to consider how you have been resolving issues with her. Have you allowed her to express herself? I think not, because if you have, you would know what's bothering her or causing her to spiral downward like this.

Financial irresponsibility with one's own money is fine and can be corrected in time with guidance, but if she's spending YOUR money irresponsibly, then don't give her access to your money.

You may want to consider taking her to counseling once a week for like 6-8 sessions to assess the situation. I took my fiancée to one session and she never felt the need to go back, although I think it would've helped for her to go a few more times.

Anyhow, good luck and remember, do unto others as you would have done unto you! CHEATING = HURTFUL AND WRONG (it's better to leave then to cheat, but even better to stay and work things out if you love her)

Get her to the doctor soon and figure out what's causing her weight gain. It could be something serious.

This is an unhealthy relationship and it is not all about her "deficits" - you're pretty judgmental.

Why don't you break up with her she sounds like a real winner. Not. My gf is like that too lazy poor work ethic bad with money only she is a perfect ten with a goddess's body

A lot of women are getting either fatter or anorexict looking.... Come on women quit eating everytime ur hungry and for god sakes don't starve urself either... Find a healthy medium...

Glad I don't have boyfriend. Because if I did, he would post something like this, which would make my depression worse! Bottom line: If you are not going to help her ego or depression, then just leave. Stringing your girlfriend along (just for the hell of it) will only make things worse.

Tell her that if she continues and she values this relationships shed better stop because that is not good at all and if she does continue do what you promised otherwise she will end up thinking your threats are just a joke and nothing to be worried about.

I think maybe you should motivate her. Help her bcus depression is something serious. And please dont cheat on her no one deserves that.

I don't think cheating is a good solution. I know what you are talking about and depression isn't an easy illness to deal with in a partner, it causes you to become frustrated too and its very contagious. I spend 3 months in a relationship like that, and had to cut it cause it was effecting my outlook and life too. I don't think its right to judge you that much. As healthy human beings, we can't help what we are attracted to, and even if love is there, its hard not to loose y attraction and respect for people who sit and lay around all day, and eat badly, and become fat. I tried to overlook it too, but realized I do need sex, and I do need my partner to be active and outgoing, to have a good relationship. I would encourage her to seek help, and try to motivate her to change, if that doesn't work, maybe you should just cut y losses and leave her. Depression is an illness, but people have to want to get better. I used to preach to my girlfriend every day that a salad is just as good as McD but she wouldn't listen. I tried cooking healthy for her, and reduce fat in her diet, only she would leave to work and go through the drive in. People have to want to get better, if not, there is nothing you can do but stay in a resentful relationship and that doesn't make anyone happy, does it?

dont cheat... leave her if ur unhappy it might b the wake up call she needs to stop being lazy n fat n b proactive in finding help for her depression

Sounds like you really care about her, from you comments about her being sensitive kind and supportive.Women know when guys have had enough of them and this can be contributing to her depression.My thinking is if you care enough to put these positives about her and put a comment of this site , then you are looking for some way to help her.Maybe change both of your lifestyles, because something is not working in this at the moment.Talk with her about what new things she wants to do.Spicing up your lives might be just what you both need.Sometimes being the man, is about being the one to be there for his woman when she needs him most.Making the tough choices when she is not able too and visa versa, its a partnership, you got there.

If you love her stay with her.

But if shes putting on too much weight just say your bored alot and say do you want to go for awalk if that doesn't work get the WII thing and have her work out.

And for the money thing my boyfriend does that too.But the thing is if its her money she can do anything with it.But once in awhile ask her to save up if you guys need too.

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Maybe she could use some motivation but not the way your going about it. Why don't you n her go for walks like 3 times a week for 30mins, that should help. Is she ok with her weight? If she is i say she should leave you why are you with her if you don't want an over weight women? O and cheat on her i think not! That would not be the right thing to do to her nobody deserves to be cheated on...