My girlfriend cheated on me with another woman

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I came home from work (I’m a guy) & she was at her girl best friends house, I had a few drinks and she came back with her lips bruised and hickeys all over her neck... I immediately knew what she did and demanded she say it herself. She started crying and telling me it was a mistake and that she was sorry... I was expecting her to say it was with another guy but she said no it was with the girl best friend. That shocked me a little, and now I don’t really know what to think, I asked her if she’s bisexual or something and she said she doesn’t know. i don’t know if I should be mad or turned on. when she told me the first thing that went through my head was “are you serious??” And “why didn’t you invite me??”... does this count as actual cheating or should I give her a pass? she said it will never happen again and she hopes I can forgive her but I seriously don’t know, I guess I’m a little bit happy it wasn’t with another man but maybe I’m just in shock.

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KholatKhult

3 years ago | pl

If you get cheated on and your first reaction is to get horny
HOOOOO BOY do you need to learn the difference between love and lust cause that relationship is a fraud

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- SkullsNRoses
  
  3 years ago
  
  Either he doesn’t care about her breach of trust and their relationship is a sex-fuelled sham or he’s trying to convince himself he doesn’t care to try and spare himself the pain of betrayal.
  
  Either way the dude’s got issues.
  
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  - Cuntsiclestick
    
    3 years ago
    
    I noticed that most people who are turned on by cheating often wind up alone after their spouse leaves them for the other person. I can never encourage poly relationships due to that. XD
    
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    - SkullsNRoses
      
      3 years ago
      
      Yeah from what I’ve seen of it (mostly in insane Facebook posts) poly relationships are chaos.
      
      The common partern I’ve noticed is when two people have had a monogamous straight relationship for two years or more then either the man suggests poly to bang other women or the woman suggests poly because she’s bi-curious and has never explored it. In the first instance the woman agrees, they start sleeping with other people, the woman gets a LOT more attention and sex than her boyfriend, he gets jealous and they break up. In the second they get a second (normally 5 years younger) woman to join the relationship. It’s a sexual utopia for 2 weeks before either the girlfriend becomes jealous of the second woman stealing her boyfriend’s attention and leaves them both OR the new woman realises joining someone else’s long term relationship is weird and power imbalanced and leaves them both.
      
      Basically I think if you want to sleep with other people that badly you shouldn’t be with your partner anymore. But people don’t want to let go of what’s comfortable so they come up with these insane arrangements to try and have their cake and eat it.
      
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- RoseIsabella
  
  3 years ago
  
  I know, right?
  
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Tommythecaty

3 years ago

Yes it’s cheating. Maybe because she can’t hide the marks she’s using the girl as a cover to hide the fact it was actually another guy. But either way, you don’t have to be “understanding” as nobody cheats accidentally. Just dump her and get a better partner.

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chuy

3 years ago

Are you really that bad? That she traded dick for pussy....🤣

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- YoloKingSwag69
  
  3 years ago
  
  What you're insinuating in your comment is that dick is better than pussy...damn homie that's pretty gay.
  
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- Mark92
  
  3 years ago
  
  Lesbian sex is way more passionate than and amazing, especially if the guy has a small dick. I am guessing thats what the op has.
  
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  - chuy
    
    3 years ago
    
    You two are hilarious
    
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rocketdave

3 years ago

If she wants you to join in then it's okay, if it's me only dump her.

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olderdude-xx

3 years ago

There are huge ranges in normal human sexual behavior; and I advise you to be a bit understanding and compassionate.

People often make mistakes... Those are not usually a problem. Lying about them often creates huge issues. It sounds like your GF did not lie to you. That is a very good sign.

Learn about human sexuality and things, work with your GF to establish workable rules, It's OK to experiment as long as you both are OK with that.

My marriage had some unexpected sexuality issues.... Working through them with my wife (which took 6 months of counseling and then another 6 months to establish rules) pulled us a lot closer together than we ever were.

I wish you the best,

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randypete

3 years ago

ask if you can watch or join in

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markwalsh

3 years ago

If it was a guy, it would be unacceptable because it would clearly mean he is better than you. It is insulting and hurts self-respect. However it is a girl and there is no competition. Let her enjoy and try to be a part of it.

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[Old Memory]

3 years ago

Did she come home a little woozy? Maybe she was drunk and didn't know what she was doing.

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thepuppet

3 years ago

I'd rather establish boundaries with her first and try a threesome together after the boundaries are already there.

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my_life_my_way

3 years ago

Invite her friend to have a threesome with you both then she can have sex with girls without it being cheating.

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