My gf was flirting with male strippers..

My brother is getting married and she was going to have a small bachelorette party at my cousins vacation home. A couple of my future sister in laws friends invited a couple male strippers of course. My gf turns into a different person drunk I love her sober but drunk she’s different. She gets really sloppy fast she has never cheated as far as I know. But this time she was with my sister in law and my girl cousin. We talked most of the night she was getting back to my until about the time the strippers showed up. My cousin told me everything that went on so i have a good idea of time frames. My girlfriend was really drunk what started as talking to the 2 guys laughing at everything my cousin said at one point she saw my girlfriend look down at his dick and make like a wowww face. As the night went on my girlfriend was the dummy for everything my brothers fiancé didn’t want to so my gf stepped up to grind on the guys dancing one of the guys kinda pretended to hump her from behind and she moved but laughed. As the night went further they played boner ring toss toss the rings and get them on the boner winner had to take them off. My gf wasn’t one who won she was out pretty quickly snd was collecting the ones that fell and was sliding them on their dicks. That was towards the end of the night shortly after my gf was sleeping on the couch drunk she was completely wasted. Woke up the next day didn’t say a word to me about anything texted me like everything was fine. Do I break up with her do I act normal and forget about it or what ? What do I do ?

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  • SkullsNRoses

    I think this is completely inappropriate behaviour for someone in a monogamous relationship and being wasted isn’t an excuse. If you can’t hold your drink don’t drink.

    It’s your relationship and you have the right to feel uncomfortable with your girlfriend looking at and touching another man’s penis. Most of these people would be singing a very different song if it was their partner disrespecting their relationship like this.

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    • S0UNDS_WEIRD

      She shouldn't have even attended if she loved and respected him.

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      • SkullsNRoses

        I will never understand American bachelor/bachelorette party culture, celebrating your up-coming marriage by grinding on a stripper is beyond trashy and (as I said previously) disrespects the relationship.

        If she had gone solely to be with her engaged friend, stayed sober and not touched the strippers that would have been fine in my book but going knowing full well she would be trashed and grabbing them was not ok. If OP wants to stay with her he is owed an apology and she should agree to cut down on or stop drinking.

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        • S0UNDS_WEIRD

          100%

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  • MonteMetcalfe

    I have to laugh at the comments referring to "Professional" strippers. As if there's some ethical standards they are sworn to uphold. Guys who strip do it for the money and the pussy and not always in that order.

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  • Sam90

    It’s absolutely hot! I wouldn’t worry about it at all.

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  • Wooliumthethird

    It was a party with professional strippers dude. Nobody had sex, nobody exchanged phone numbers. If you knew you couldn't handle her looking at other dudes you should have spoken up before going to this party. Strippers are supposed to be hot, not sure what you expected your girl to do at this party. Sit in the corner facing the wall lol

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  • Pjcsr

    In a way it’s kind of hot!

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  • Yeah break up.

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  • newnormal

    Breakup

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  • olderdude-xx

    While some may point out that such flirting is against some concepts of a monogamous marriage; what I see her is a hugh double standard. Guys can go to "girly" bars, clubs, and restaurants - and ogle and flirt with the "ladies"; but, ladies cannot do the same without raising issues.

    Grow up everyone. Both men and woman can appreciate and flirt with those they find "exciting." Its human nature to flirt.

    It did not go beyond that... so totally harmless regardless of the common relationship.

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    • S0UNDS_WEIRD

      Nah. Fuck her, and fuck guys who go to girly clubs while taken too. Unless it's something that was explicitly agreed upon.

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  • LondonGoldman

    I dont even get why even matters. She went to a bachelorette party. Thats what you do there. She did not go to Christian Bible study.

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  • Kinda tricky. You folks should of communicated on what would be going on at this party to understand what boundaries you have for the relationship.

    If what you explained is 100% all that happened then although it's a bitter pill to swallow, I don't think it's a relationship killer, not if she didn't do any sexual acts on them.

    My advice is to ask the people that know what went on about it a little more so that you are convinced nothing else happened. If you're still unhappy with how it went as you explained then talk to her about it, you don't want the feeling of betrayal kicking about in a relationship.

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    • S0UNDS_WEIRD

      Sliding shit on their dicks is a sexual act. Dump her.

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      • Maybe. Watching strippers could also be seen as a sexual act too. It depends on your perspective.

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        • S0UNDS_WEIRD

          I think it is. Does it make girls wet? Guys hard? It's a sexual act.

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          • Wooliumthethird

            By that logic everyone with a strange fetish makes every act in the world sexual. Some people get turned on by people's feet. I guess taking off your shoes at the beach is now a sexual act lol

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  • litelander8

    My now ex and I used to go to the strip clubs all the time and he would throw the money do the dancers would pay more attention to us. We loved going together.

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  • Tommythecaty

    Kill her and give her jewellery to your next girlfriend after pretending you bought it for her. Then every time you see her in that necklace say “you look like a slut” and when she says “huh what?” go “oh nothing, never mind dear”

    Or break up with her maybe, possibly, I dunno.

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    • Bazinga

      Nice blurb. I'm saving your stuff for my new book, 'Dr. Tommy's Blurbs that your Daughter should know by age 14.' Don't worry, my friend, prevention is learned best before the wolf knocks on the door. And, a good howl and a growl, every now and then, improves one's disposition.

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      • Tommythecaty

        But you were not to know that you plagiarise my plagiarism sir, this simply will not do.

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        • Bazinga

          My acknowledgements for your role are included in the title. Your role is like a shell corporation that covers the paper trail. I'm also adding a chapter on the virtue of lil Red Ridinghood learning to put condoms on bananas. That'll distract them.

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          • Tommythecaty

            Don’t be so sure.

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            • Bazinga

              Awww, come on. Riding a condom covered banana in a little Red Ridinghood outfit? Porn hasn't been that cute since the days of Stormy Daniels.

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  • SwickDinging

    I wouldn't be ok with this at all, but I know every relationship is different. Some people see strippers as a grey area.

    Have you ever discussed it? Do you think she'd be comfortable if the tables were turned and it was you at a party touching female strippers?

    If I were you I'd talk to her about it before ending it, but if it's a hard line for you I can understand you just ending it now. It's your call.

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  • S0UNDS_WEIRD

    If she respected you at all she wouldn't have even attended such a thing on the grounds that she was taken. Just that would be a deal breaker for me, but hearing all that? Wow. Your girlfriend is a slut. Leave her in the dust and be as harsh and clear about why as possible.

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  • a-curious-bunny

    I'll never understand these parties. So many relationships seem to get ruined by them. Personally I'd let it be since it was a party and they were drunk and no cheating took place Albert some uncomfortable actions did.

    However only you can decide if it was to far and how to proceed. If it was to much leave her. If it wasn't talk to her and explain why it made you uncomfortable in the hopes of it never happening again

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    • S0UNDS_WEIRD

      I think sliding shit on dicks is definitely cheating. She's a slut.

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      • a-curious-bunny

        To each their own opinion. Im not saying she wasn't just in my opinion she wasn't. Thats one thing that amuses me though. It seems all guys want a slutty girl but when they have one its a big problem. Again just my own opinion based on observation

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        • S0UNDS_WEIRD

          Virtually zero guys want a slut. They want a loyal girl who will also let him do whatever he wants to her.

          The two needs rarely come in one package (loyalty and letting him do whatever he wants) so they look in two places.

          They find sluts to do whatever they want to and then trash.

          They find loyal girls to actually be with. If the loyal girl also lets him do that, sluts become completely worthless. Guys are territorial.

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          • Wooliumthethird

            Wow you sound like a real piece of work. Might want to run that world view by your therapist and see what their take is.

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            • S0UNDS_WEIRD

              Do you honestly disagree? Might want to run that by observed objective reality.

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          • a-curious-bunny

            Touche. Most guys are decinitly territorial haha. Every guy I've been with has been jealous but loves my slutty side for the most part. Always seems to cause some sort o problem tbh

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  • Mini69

    You need to get over yourself. She was not cheating on you, she was having a bit of fun. These guys were professional strippers, your girlfriend was just another punter to them. They know where to draw the line and from everything you have said they did not cross the boundaries. They can’t afford to be unprofessional if they want to remain employed and avoid any unwanted accusations.

    Your girlfriend might have got a little bit carried away because she was drunk, but that is the benefit of having professionals doing the stripping. They remain sober and in control.

    From what you have told us neither your girlfriend or the strippers did anything wrong. Stop being such a prude, grow up and deal with it, it sounds to me like you are the one with the problem, not your girlfriend.

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    • S0UNDS_WEIRD

      Well I guess I know who's a slutty McSlut Slut.

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      • Mini69

        Oh dear. You really can’t help yourself can you. You make life style judgments about me and resort to name calling, based on 3 short paragraphs, just because you don’t agree with my view.

        If the OP wants to be with some holier than thou little prude, to scared to live life then perhaps he should break up with her in an act of kindness to allow her to live a normal life, without his over reactive judgments on her. I feel sorry for anyone stuck with a boyfriend like the OP.

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        • S0UNDS_WEIRD

          *too
          *than

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          • Mini69

            My apologies for my grammatical errors, didn’t realise it was an English exam. Anyway I spotted the first one and your correct it should be ‘too scared’, but can’t place the other one. Perhaps you would be so kind as to point it out.

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